Raising Your Vibration and Breaking Free from Destructive Habits with Mary Beth Schrudder

Are you struggling with addiction and seeking a path to recovery that goes beyond traditional methods? In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with Mary Beth Schrudder, a spiritual and transformational life coach who has overcome her own battles with alcohol, food, and toxic relationships. Mary Beth shares her powerful journey from corporate executive to addiction recovery expert, offering invaluable insights on how to break free from destructive habits and embrace a life of purpose and fulfillment.

Key Takeaways:

• The connection between childhood experiences and addiction development
• How spiritual awareness can aid in overcoming destructive habits
• The importance of self-care and mindfulness in maintaining sobriety
•  Practical strategies for raising your vibration and attracting positive change

Embracing a Holistic Approach to Recovery

Discover how Mary Beth’s unique perspective on addiction recovery incorporates:

• • The Law of Attraction principles
• • Mindfulness and meditation techniques
• • Nutritional and lifestyle changes
• • Developing a strong spiritual connection

Overcoming Societal Pressures and Finding Your Authentic Self

We discuss the challenges of:

• Navigating a culture that normalizes excessive drinking
• Breaking free from people-pleasing behaviours
• Cultivating self-awareness and emotional intelligence
• Building a supportive network that aligns with your goals

This conversation is packed with actionable insights for anyone looking to overcome addiction, improve their relationships, or simply live a more intentional life. Whether you’re in recovery, supporting a loved one, or seeking personal growth, you’ll find valuable guidance to help you on your journey.

Don’t miss this opportunity to gain a fresh perspective on addiction recovery and the power of spiritual transformation. Tune in now and start giving a heck about creating positive change in your life!

Connect with  Mary Beth Schrudder
Website: https://www.dayonelifecoaching.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marybeth.schrudder/about
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DayOneLifeCoaching
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/day_one_life_coaching/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-beth-schrudder-999614b/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dayonelifecoaching?_t=8p7qn8joOPz&_r=1

Connect with Dwight Heck:
Website: https://giveaheck.com (Free Book Offer)
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/give.a.heck
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dwight.heck
Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Giveaheck
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@giveaheck
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dwight-heck-65a90150/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@giveaheck

The key moments in this episode are(Full Unedited Transcript follows):
00:00:02
Mary Beth Shredder: From Corporate Addiction to Spiritual Recovery
Mary Beth shares her journey from corporate addiction to becoming a spiritual and transformational life coach. She discusses her struggles with alcohol, food, and relationships, and how she overcame them through spiritual recovery and the Law of Attraction. Mary Beth now empowers others to live their best lives.

00:03:00
Childhood Trauma and the Roots of Addiction
Mary Beth reveals how her parents’ divorce at age 5 led to anxiety and fear of abandonment. This early trauma sparked her addictive behaviors, starting with food and progressing to alcohol by age 11. She explains how addiction often begins as a coping mechanism for childhood wounds.

00:06:19
Genetic Factors and Nutrient Deficiencies in Mental Health
Mary Beth discusses her recent genetic testing, revealing an MTHFR gene mutation affecting nutrient absorption. This discovery explains her struggles with anxiety, ADHD, and depression. She emphasizes the importance of understanding genetic factors in mental health and addiction, and how proper supplementation can help.

00:10:01
The Cycle of Addiction and Self-Awareness
Mary Beth explains how alcohol addiction creates a vicious cycle, initially soothing anxiety but ultimately amplifying it. She discusses the importance of self-awareness in recognizing addictive patterns and the challenges of moderation versus abstinence. The conversation highlights the need for honesty and self-reflection in addressing addiction.

00:14:13
Societal Normalization of Alcohol and Its Impact
The discussion shifts to how alcohol consumption is normalized and glamorized in society, making it difficult for individuals to recognize problematic drinking. Mary Beth shares her experience of being a “functional drinker” and how societal acceptance of alcohol consumption can mask addiction issues.

00:19:39
Empathy, Energy Sensitivity, and Addiction
Mary Beth reveals her lifelong empathic abilities and how being sensitive to others’ energies contributed to her desire to numb through addiction. She explains how empaths often struggle with overwhelming emotions and may turn to substances or behaviors to cope with the intensity of their experiences.

00:24:45
Law of Attraction and Spiritual Recovery
Mary Beth introduces her approach to addiction recovery using the Law of Attraction. She emphasizes the importance of raising one’s vibration and aligning with positive energy to overcome addictive patterns. The conversation explores how spiritual practices can support recovery and personal growth.

00:32:49
Self-Awareness and Personal Growth in Recovery
The discussion focuses on the importance of self-awareness and personal growth in overcoming addiction. Mary Beth shares her journey of developing self-awareness and how it led to her quitting alcohol. She emphasizes the need for continuous self-reflection and growth throughout life.

00:38:15
Hiding Addiction and Recognizing the Problem
Mary Beth discusses how she hid her food addiction and how her drinking wasn’t seen as problematic by others. She explains the challenges of recognizing addiction when it’s socially acceptable and how personal realization is crucial for change. The conversation highlights the importance of self-honesty in addressing addiction.

00:43:44
First Steps Towards Recovery and Self-Care
Mary Beth offers advice for those struggling with addiction, suggesting they focus on the negative aspects of their addiction to motivate change. She emphasizes the importance of self-care, proper nutrition, and sleep in recovery. The conversation concludes with recommendations for daily meditation and connecting with one’s inner guidance.

Full Unedited Transcript:
[00:00:02 – 00:01:42]
Good day and welcome to give a heck. On today’s show, I welcome Mary Beth Shredder. After decades spent in the corporate world juggling being a single mom while secretly battling addictions to alcohol, food and toxic relationships, today’s guest is now an expert in spiritual recovery and she is passionate about empowering others to live their best life. Mary Beth is a spiritual and transformational life coach and founder of Day One Life Coaching. Mary Beth is creator of addiction recovery with Law of Attraction, a unique deck of cards used to help people recover from addictions and destructive habits. Mary Beth is also an international best selling author in multiple categories including healthy relationships and leadership training. As a host of spiritual transformation podcasts with Mary Beth, she does interviews with healers and spiritually gifted along with soul solo episodes on spiritual upliftment for her audience. Mary Beth will help you heal addictions and transform relationships, including the relationship with yourself. Her approach is holistic and her areas of expertise include relationships, marriage, divorce, mindset, happiness, freedom from addictions, optimal fitness, life person, life purpose, pardon me. And career as a professional life coach with years of experience, Mary Beth’s life changing coach will help you step outside, outside of your comfort zone and together you will create extraordinary results using innovative techniques. I’d like to welcome you to the show, Mary Beth. Thanks so much for agreeing to come on and share with us some of your life journey.

[00:01:42 – 00:01:46]
Thank you so much for having me. This is going to be fun. I’m excited to be here.

[00:01:47 – 00:02:11]
I’m excited too. Our. Our pre conversation was a hoot. It was awesome. It’s, it’s. That’s some of my favorite time though before we record because I get to really connect and create a chemistry with people and life is too short not to give a heck about one another. Right. To actually find out things like your, your cat page and stuff like. I love it. I love it. Right. For those that are listening.

[00:02:11 – 00:02:12]
Background for you.

[00:02:12 – 00:03:00]
Yeah. For those listening or watching, if you want to know more about the. The cat fan page and stuff, you know, you’re just gonna have to reach out to Marybeth. So you’re not gonna. We’re not gonna give all the trade secrets right now. I’m sorry. Right. So Mary Beth, one of the things I like to focus on, as I mentioned before the show, my listeners and viewers appreciate the fact of people’s actual origin story, not fluff what has transpired in your life. Good, bad, ugly. It doesn’t have to be bad. People have transformational moments in their life that happen at a young age and they really don’t understand it till they’re older. So if you have any of those, that would be great as well. But sure, share whatever you, you know, you want, whatever you feel comfortable with, from your earliest recollections to where you are today.

[00:03:00 – 00:06:16]
I love that you said that, because we don’t know until we’re older. Because it’s just. As kids, it’s just our normal life, right? We have no idea until, you know, we look back in retrospect and be like, oh, man, that was a trauma. You know, our childhood wounds, you know, that we are just living in real time. So, like, people don’t know, for instance, that divorce is a huge trauma for kids. My parents. So I grew up in the 70s, and the 70s was so different, right? Parents were different. We kind of raised ourselves, if we’re being honest. You know, we were the kids who just came home to an empty house and, you know, we just had the key and just kind of entertained ourselves. But my parents actually divorced when I was only five years old. And I want to say that was my. A big trans transformative moment, you know, when my dad came outside is like, hey, I’m not going to be living here anymore. And that’s really all he said. There weren’t any counselors brought in, and my mom didn’t really discuss it. And he just. Then we just saw him, like, every other weekend, every other Sunday. I remember that. And that’s all we saw him. And it freaked me out. It doesn’t sound like a trauma, like, oh, divorce. Everybody gets divorced these days. But back then, my brain went, oh, my God, if my dad can just leave, my mom can leave, too. And it caused this generalized anxiety because I suddenly had this fear of abandonment. And just like, I was always afraid my mom wasn’t going to come home, like, after work or something like that. And I just. I knew that I couldn’t take care of myself. And I just had this abandonment fear. And interestingly enough, that’s kind of where my addiction started. And what I want people to know about addiction is it usually does start from some sort of childhood event or trauma where we just want to soothe ourselves. We’re just looking for relief. We know innately, I don’t feel good. I’m supposed to feel better. So we do things like soothe ourselves with food. Maybe food is a huge addiction. You know, we don’t look down upon it as much as we do alcohol and drugs. But I can tell you my first drink was at 11 years old. And that sounds insane, right? But I was on vacation with a girlfriend and her family in Florida and we had a condo and they just kind of left out alcohol just sitting on the counter. And we were curious kids. Like, we’re like, let’s try it. We just mixed a bunch of stuff together. And what I can tell you, Dwight, is I felt relief from that anxiety that I was talking about. For the first time in my life, I felt relief. I was like, this is the answer to all of my problems because I always had this anxiety that, you know, I also found out some of it’s genetic. And you’re the first person who’s going to hear about this because I just got some genetic testing done and I have this thing called, it’s all caps mthfr gene mutation. And when you write that out, I see you writing that out. We call it what it looks like. So we call it.

[00:06:16 – 00:06:19]
I write it down because I want to look it up. I’m a curious.

[00:06:19 – 00:08:19]
I know, but now that I want you to, I just wanted you to look at it. And so that’s, you can imagine what we call this gene mutation. But now that you know mthfr, everybody has the gene, but not everybody, everybody has a mutation with that gene. And the one that I have is from, turns out is from both parents and it causes a lot of anxiety. I’ve been diagnosed with adhd, ocd, depression, anxiety, all of these things. And it, and it turns out a lot of it was just a nutrient deficiency. And it’s so interesting because about 40%, this is a guess because hardly anyone gets tested for this, even doctors, most doctors don’t even know about this genetic testing. The traditional doctors are simply not, they’re not bad, they just aren’t taught in medical school. So I had a suspicion when I got a blood test because my B vitamins were like off the charts. And my doctor’s like, we’re not going to worry about that. You can’t die from having high B12. But I’m like, but why is it high? There has to be a reason. And it turns out it’s high in your system because you’re not actually methylating it, you’re not absorbing it, your body can’t process it. So I’m only with the one that I have from both parents. I’m only absorbing 20% of the nutrients and vitamins that I should be absorbing. So that nutrient deficiency creates anxiety, creates ADHD type symptoms and all kinds of problems like depression. Because if you think about how important are B vitamins, right, we need Them and people with this gene mutation are not able to process and methylate these vitamins. We’re not getting as much nutrients from all of our food or supplements. So you take methylated vitamins. There’s things you could do. But I encourage people, now that I know about this, it should be given at birth, we should know at birth if do we have these genetic mutations and then there’s ways to supplement and fix it.

[00:08:19 – 00:08:20]
But the worst.

[00:08:21 – 00:08:22]
Sorry, go ahead.

[00:08:22 – 00:08:27]
Sorry, I just want to. Did you have to seek out that type of testing or was it offered up to you or not?

[00:08:27 – 00:09:57]
Offered to me. I ordered it on my own because of that B12 situation about a year and a half ago and now I’m 50. So I’m on these, I’m at that age where my hormones are like dwindling. So I am on bioidentical hormone replacement therapy and I noticed on that website, so it’s a telemed company, they offered that genetic testing for the mthfr and I was like, ooh, you know, like I’m going to order that. I ordered it for myself. Luckily the provider, you know, you have a telemed one hour long session session with them. He, he was like, this makes so much sense because even the hormones aren’t really absorbing properly in me. And there’s, there’s more specific testing we can get. But it’s so interesting to me. I just wanted your audience to realize, and this is men and women can have this gene mutation. Sometimes you’re diagnosed with a mental disorder when you really just have a chemical imbalance because you’re not getting enough nutrients in your brain. And so this has been probably a big part of my whole life makes so much sense. And what I was going to say is 30 years plus of drinking alcohol was not a good thing for me to do because what does alcohol do? It depletes our body of nutrients and especially B vitamins. So no wonder I was a disaster. Right now my whole life is making sense, but I still was, I still was doing well. You know, I was running two businesses.

[00:09:57 – 00:10:01]
And in the corporate world you were a functional drinker.

[00:10:01 – 00:10:36]
Functional drinker. Functional. And I, and that’s the thing about alcohol is we drink it to soothe our anxiety, but it’s also the same thing that creates anxiety. Like if you have anxiety, drinking alcohol is like pouring gasoline on your anxiety. So, so it’s really, you know, the, the cure becomes the problem. So I think that’s all I was doing my whole life is I knew I didn’t feel Right. I wanted to feel better. And that’s why most people get into addictions. Right. We don’t feel good and we want relief and then we criminalize it.

[00:10:37 – 00:11:49]
Wow. And it’s alcohol addiction. Not to cut you off, but it’s, it’s all addictions. I put that in conversation here with. I’d like to break in a little bit about the fact that so many people, their learned behaviors throughout their life or misdiagnosis like you went through and then realizing what is wrong and how you can treat it. But all the years of drinking alcohol, I’ve seen it destroy people’s lives. I’ve seen food addiction destroy people’s lives. I’ve seen people, they’re hiding from the fact that they don’t like their lives. Like you’re saying, you know, but you’re putting. We don’t realize initially it’s a. It’s a relief. But then like you said, it magnifies things. So I think about the fact of when I used to. I haven’t been a heavy drinker since my 20s, but I used to do the same thing. I didn’t like what I’ve seen in the mirror. I didn’t like myself or I didn’t, you know, I was jealous of other people. Right. And there were. They’re accomplishing things or whatever the case may be. And I feel good initially. But then the next morning it was like, you’re right. It’s just like it’s an, it’s initially it’s a damper, but then it amplifies it. Correct. Is that how you’re saying?

[00:11:49 – 00:14:11]
Yeah, like. And I teach law of attraction. And what it. What when I quit is because I just knew too much about it. I started to. I added I was already a life coach because I was doing pretty well in life despite all of this stuff. Everyone I knew drank as much or more than me. But of course, I guess we surround ourselves with people who drink with us. Right. It was like, you know how it is in society. Like it’s totally normalized and even glamorized, I would say. So I did not think I had a problem when I quit was after I was already a life coach. I decided to add on a niche about six years ago of addiction recovery to add that on. And I started learning more about addiction. And I couldn’t lie to myself. I’m pretty self aware person. And I was like, wait a minute. This is describing my relationship with alcohol and my relationship with food because I also have the food addiction. And what I want to say is when we become really self aware, we should be able to look at ourselves and be honest. Are you someone who can moderate or are you better off abstaining? We can’t abstain from food, right? But that’s not a choice. But we can, we can change and eat health, make healthier choices. But with alcohol, I realized I suck at moderating. I don’t have one of those dials that people have when they can moderate and kind of turn it up and down. I’ve got to. I’m all in or I’m all out. Like, you know, I’m really good at abstaining. And once I get started with a drink, I’m like, one more, one more, I feel good. Let’s have another one. And you know, and even if I could moderate sometimes, like, sometimes I could moderate like 10 times in a row, you know, like when I’d go out, stop at two or three drinks, but then like that’ll. That 11, 12th time, I’m gonna go overboard and, and be right back at square one. And you know, like, I, I couldn’t maintain that ability to moderate, so. But I am able to really do well at abstaining and just not even getting started. And I’m the same way with cookies. I’m the same way with anything, you know, type of sugar thing, because I was a big sugar addict. As long as I don’t get started, I’m good. But once I have that one cookie, I want the whole sleeve, you know.

[00:14:11 – 00:14:13]
Oh my gosh, that sounds familiar.

[00:14:13 – 00:14:16]
You know, it’s what it is. It’s in a lot.

[00:14:16 – 00:14:19]
How many people can admit it, though? Most people kind of.

[00:14:21 – 00:16:09]
That’s the thing is self awareness is a form of emotional maturity that I did not used to have in my younger days. You know, I develop self awareness. I’m able to look at myself. I’m able to, to own my crap, you know, so that I’m not, you know, deceiving myself about what are these destructive habits, you know, that, you know, they’re pulling me down. And the law of attraction is the reason I’m so obsessed with it and why I teach it, because it’s the exact thing that pulled me out of my addiction. That’s why I call it. I teach spiritual recovery because you actually, if you want to be successful to the point where you don’t even think about that addiction anymore, which is where I am almost six years later. I haven’t had a drink. I don’t think about it. I’m not white, knuckling it. A lot of people in a. Or something, they still, you know, it’s. I’m not putting down aa, but I’m saying if they haven’t had that spiritual energetic shift, they’re still craving it and they’re just white knuckling their way through it. They really, truly want that drink. You know, they really haven’t had that energetic shift to where, like I have a new identity, Dwight. I am no longer that person who craves wine and is going to go out to dinner and order red wine or even lunch. I would drink, drink red wine at lunch. I mean, sometimes I had something in the mornings, you know, so we go to brunch and have some, you know, with your friends. And it was just completely normal, which is why it took me so long to identify. It was a problem for me, but it was lowering my vibration. And I am someone, I am teaching people how to live their best lives. Well, how can I do that with integrity when I know I’m not living my best life and I’m doing something that’s self sabotaging me instead of setting myself up for success each day?

[00:16:09 – 00:17:42]
Well, self awareness, so is difficult. Right? And it’s something that I coach on myself and, and have conversations with people all the time. You have to develop a habit of self awareness. Maybe not everybody does, but I know myself. I get up, I have self awareness, I have gratefulness and gratitude. I go to bed at night, I have self awareness during the day. If I feel off, I have self awareness. And sometimes I realize you got up so early this morning and you were in a rush because you slept in a few minutes late. You never did your gratitude. You never did your gratefulness. You weren’t aware of your. How are you feeling when you woke up? Oh, you’re feeling this way. What, what did you do yesterday? How is it affecting you today? I was never like that when I was younger. It’s, it’s something I’ve worked on through personal development. To be self aware, to have an awareness of my emotional IQ level. What’s my emotional iq? Should I be having this conversation with this person, this sensitive conversation, Should I be deferring and saying, you know, I’m not in the right mindset right now, can we defer this to later or tomorrow? And just being vulnerable and honest because I was self aware of my emotional state. But for those listening or watching, what Mary Beth’s talking about has been a journey. There’s been a lot of ups and downs, maybe tears, maybe frustration. Like, why? And you know, I don’t know what it was like through those initial years of you quitting drinking. Can you share some of that? Like, how did, how did you go through that journey? Did you have support or did you, were you silent about it?

[00:17:43 – 00:19:19]
No, like I was determined to quit and I did do it on my own, but luckily. So my entire life was. I’ve been doing personal development. Like from the time I could read, I was into self help stuff because I, like I said, I always kind of knew, like I’m not supposed to feel this way. Innately I knew that there was something and I wanted to fix it. It’s really important to me to feel good and I think when that’s your priority, you definitely seek this stuff out. So my whole life, from the time I could read, I’m just all into, I’ve always been into psychology and self help books. Like I said, in spiritual stuff, like, I’ve always been drawn to it because as a child I was very empathic and I would be able to sense energies. I would be able to know what other people are thinking, like 50 year old men, you know, like I could, I, you know what it’s like, that’s weird for like a 5, 6 year old to be able to like, you know, know what these adult people are thinking and feeling. I could feel their energy. I could, I. It was just something that I’ve always had and I kind of just thought everybody was like that, you know, because it was like, like we said earlier, it’s just your normal, you don’t have anything to compare it to. So you just think everybody can do that. And I was also realizing that part of why I wanted to numb myself out with food as a child and then alcohol as I got older is because it’s very overwhelming when you can feel all of these energies. When you’re an empathic person and you’re in a room and you feel it’s overwhelming and you don’t really have discernment when you’re younger. Is, is this my feelings or are these other people’s feelings? So that’s a little bit of a.

[00:19:19 – 00:19:23]
It’s a lot of baggage to carry. It really is. Yeah. And why do I say that?

[00:19:23 – 00:19:24]
Anxiety.

[00:19:24 – 00:19:27]
I smiled because I’m an empath too.

[00:19:27 – 00:19:30]
Yeah. So you feel the people’s feeling. It’s hard.

[00:19:30 – 00:19:32]
Absolutely. Try having four daughters.

[00:19:32 – 00:19:34]
Oh, gosh. Yeah.

[00:19:34 – 00:19:39]
Anyway, sorry for interrupting you. I just. We have a lot, we have a lot of relatability. Right.

[00:19:39 – 00:22:03]
So that’s awesome. So. And I think that’s Another reason. So we got the childhood wounds and traumas, plus being empathic, and we want to numb those feelings. But the problem with numbing our feelings is we can’t only selectively numb feelings. We end up numbing all of our feelings, even the good ones. So Brene Brown has a saying that. I think that’s what she says, you can’t selectively numb your feelings. You numb the joy and the passion, all the good stuff. And, you know, with Law of Attraction, what I teach and what’s important to know is that there is nothing more important than the way you feel. And we’re always manifesting things. People think, oh, I’m going to start using the Law of Attraction today. Guess what? You’ve been using it every day of your life. You just have been doing it by default instead of being deliberate about it. Because all it is is energy. It’s not a religion. Everything’s energy. And we have so much more power over our day than we realize. It’s just people are just letting their lives take them up and down. And what we can do is realize, okay, when I think these thoughts and I feel these feelings and take these actions, my day is going to be completely different day than when I just let things happen to me and I react. You know, I just react to things happening. Right. So it’s. It’s really. Once you really learn about the Law of Attraction and how much we can deliberately control our day, you can’t unknow this stuff. You can’t go backwards. And then learning that alcohol was the thing that was disturbing my sleep, that was another reason I had to quit, because sleep is so important, and I didn’t know it was alcohol. I was blaming my hormones on everything. So I had to get rid of it. I had to live in integrity. Once I realized how much it was pulling down my vibration. And what we do during our day is we meet up with vibrational matches. So if we’re. If we’re not setting up. Yeah, we. Yeah. So, like, let’s say yourself up for success. That means going to bed early. That’s gonna. You’re gonna have a higher vibration the next day. If you go to bed at a decent time and get good sleep, you’re going to have a higher vibration when you’re not watching the news and you’re filling your head with positive things instead of, you know, maybe put on one of Dwight’s podcasts instead of watching, you know, mainstream media before bed. You know, like, I mean, when we exercise, that raises our vibration. But what Music. Are we listening to the people you associate with though?

[00:22:03 – 00:22:06]
Like, it’s all about associations. I love this conversation.

[00:22:06 – 00:23:19]
You are. You have friends who complain to you and use you as a sounding board and then never offer anything. And they, you know, the ones that I would say are going to really drag you down is it’s okay when your friends complain to you, but are they taking in your advice? Are they making changes to their life or are they only using you as a sounding board and being that victim? Because I used to be a victim too. Like I was in that role. Everything was somebody else’s fault, right? Not my fault. I didn’t take personal responsibility and accountability for my life. And these days I own it. You know, I realize I am the creator of my personal reality. Of course negative things are going to happen to everybody. It’s just life. It’s being here in 3D, physical time, space, reality. We’re going to have negative things happen. But what changes? The more you raise your vibration, the better you’re going to be able to handle the contrast in life. Handle the negative things. Your relationship with negative things happening or contrast changes. That’s what changes. You can’t block things from happening because we can only control our own vibration, our own reactions. We can’t control somebody else’s vibration and what they say and do, but we can control how we respond to them.

[00:23:19 – 00:24:04]
Yeah, Law of Attraction is so, I don’t want to say confusing for the. But it is for the general population. They look at stuff like the Secret and no offense to, to the Secret and stuff. There’s some good things a person can possibly understand or, or utilize within their life. But at the end of the day you can be self aware of your situations. But if you’re not taking action and being consistent on working on yourself, it’s. You’re just going to go back onto the hamster wheel. You’re going to start drinking again, you’re going to start dry eating too much food. The Secret was meant to say that you can manifest things and, and manifestation still takes action.

[00:24:04 – 00:24:44]
It was a great introductory video and I don’t know if you know about this, but they realized they screwed up doing that documentary and not leaving and they didn’t talk about action enough. They have, if you go on YouTube for free, they have something called meta secret M E T A like metaphysical meta secret. And it’s free and it’s. They have made up for that but unfortunately it didn’t become popular. But it’s the same people discussing, hey, you know, like you can’t just sit around on a meditation cushion all day and think positive thoughts and have things flow to you. You got to be in vibrational alignment plus take inspired action. You know, you can’t just sit around to do nothing. You have to take action.

[00:24:45 – 00:26:44]
Exactly. So you talk about your vibration and stuff and, and we talked about associations to what. And I totally agree with all this. I coach on, on a lot of this. Like, you and I resonate so much alike. Like, I, I challenge people. What are you listening to when you feel terrible? Like, what do you watch? Who do you associate with? So, and I tell them, as you change, you’re going to have a different. Your body language is going to be different, your tonality is going to be different, your energy level is going to be different, depending if it’s food, alcohol, it can be sex addiction, it can be television addiction, it can be, I’m just sad addicted. Right? It can be all that stuff. Work, work, work. Addicted. Yes. And I tell people you’re going to start to elevate yourself, and the people around you that you normally associate with are going to start pulling you down. They’ll start like, oh, they’ll notice things about you and they’ll try to be. They’re not even necessarily intentional about their negativity. They’re just, they want to pull you. They don’t want to feel that good energy. They want to pull you back to the negative energy that they’re feeling. And you have to start with that awareness, taking action and starting to disassociate with people or the things that bring you down. I tell people if you’re feeling bad and you go to time yourself out, like, how many people like being timed out? I do. I love it as an adult, time me out because I know what to do during that time out. I know to bring in good podcasts, listen to good books, or reach out to Mary Beth and say, hey, Mary Beth, you got 20 minutes. Let’s jump on a call. I just, I need a sounding board. And I’m very up front with the people that are close in my, in my circle, in my tribe, I’m in part of theirs. And I’ll say, I just need a sounding board. Hey, I need to, need to vet, need some advice. I tell people ahead of time in my expectation, too. Is that, is that a wrong thing, do you think when you’re, when you’re trying to rebuild associations and moving forward, just to be kind but blunt with people about where you’re at and where.

[00:26:44 – 00:27:15]
You’Re going No, I think it’s important. Like I think we should always be authentic and let people know exactly what we’re thinking. Not everybody can handle honesty and we don’t have to be brutal about it. Like I’m extremely honest and not everyone can handle my personality, but they might not be my people. One huge thing that moved me forward was realizing, hey, not everybody’s going to like me and that’s okay, you know, like, not everybody has to like me. Actually, if everybody likes you, you’re probably a fake person, you know.

[00:27:15 – 00:27:15]
No doubt.

[00:27:16 – 00:27:31]
Not everybody’s supposed to like everybody. That’s not how life works. So like I’m. If my people will find me. They always do. Like I like with my coaching. I do spiritual marketing. I don’t pay for anything. People find me, they just, they always find me and it’s.

[00:27:31 – 00:28:15]
Well, your energy is spectacular. So I could, you know, I could see that, right, that it would just the universe. Whether you people listening or watching, you believe in God or you’re just, you know, spiritual and you believe in the universe or a higher or higher power, what you put out is what you get. Right. So you need to be and, and you’re right. I love that though, the honesty of you saying if, if everybody likes you, you’re. You’re doing something wrong. You’re being fake. I don’t want everybody to like me. I want my tribe. Yes, they’re to become part of their. I want to become part of their tribe. And, and you know what? More isn’t better. No group of people that resonate is the best.

[00:28:15 – 00:28:52]
It’s a game changer in life once you realize that. And like I procrastinated doing videos for so long because I was so afraid of being judged and I just. And I knew I was going to be judged because some of the stuff I talk about pretty woo woo, you know, to people. To me it’s not woo woo because this has been my whole life. Like, but I also understand that if people haven’t had firsthand experience with spiritual stuff, you know, they, they think it’s. It sounds crazy. Like I’ve lived in haunted houses. You know, I’ve like, I’ve had this my whole life. I’ve just been. This stuff is attracted to me or I’m attracted to it, whatever. It’s just, I’m open.

[00:28:52 – 00:28:54]
It’s your journey. It’s your journey.

[00:28:54 – 00:29:38]
Yeah. When you’re open to it, you, you just can’t turn it off, you know, no matter what you do. I had a spiritually transformative experience. When I was 18 years old from. I was reading a book on near death experience experiences and didn’t know about. Actually that’s a new term, spiritually transformative experience. S T E It’s new and I’m so glad that came up with. I heard it for the first time a couple years ago because like that’s what happened to me. I didn’t ever know how to describe it. You know, some people, I don’t know that I would call it enlightenment. But when I was reading this book on near death experiences, my soul like remembered, oh yes, this is how it really is. This is the truth. And I could feel it. And I was suddenly like. I don’t know if you heard anyone talking about 5D, like 5th dimension or anything.

[00:29:38 – 00:29:42]
I’ve never heard details of. But I’ve heard the. You know, the terminology. Yes.

[00:29:43 – 00:30:28]
Kind of like being. Just being in a different dimension, a different frequency. And when this. When this happened, I was triggered into it and didn’t know it was a thing. But suddenly I was able to. I could just think a thought, a question and with the answer would be downloaded to me. Like I was in this. And it lasted two weeks. What I want to say is I was on the highest frequency ever. Like I was just on like. Like the high frequencies would be joy, passion, unconditional love. I had unconditional love for everybody. I was. And I looked like a crazy person, Dwight. Everybody thought I was crazy that I’m trying to talk to and tell them what’s going on. Because I was unrelatable because I was in another dimension, quite literally. But I was still here. I was.

[00:30:28 – 00:30:37]
Sounds like a. Sounds like a flower blossoming, right? Like a flower opening up and becoming everything it needs to be at that point. Right.

[00:30:37 – 00:31:54]
Well, I was able. I was connected to some sort of higher knowledge. Like I was able to understand quantum physics. I was able to understand things that I cannot talk about today. I’m sure it’s somewhere in my subconscious. But I was given this privilege and. Yeah. And I could see how all of us were all connected. I could see all the ripple effects of everything we do and say really, really matters. This straightened me out because I was a little brat. And once I saw like I was. I was made aware of this ripple effect of everything we do or say. How much it matters and goes out to every. It expands. Everything we do gets bigger. And I. It straightened me out. I became instantly a good person because I saw how much our little. These, even these little things really affected other people. I Never again intentionally hurt anybody. I obviously hurt people by default over my lifetime. You know, I got a divorce and things like that, but it was never intentional. I really. It just made me care a lot more. And I feel like the whole reason this happened is because I was going to be. I was. I think it was part of my sole plan to teach about energy. Teach. So I. What better way than for me to embody this experience for two weeks? Because if I had only read about it in a book, I would not have the confidence to talk this way.

[00:31:54 – 00:32:49]
It’s. It’s amazing, though, that you started this journey at 18, and as you mentioned, you went through divorce. You’ve been through, you know, some trials and tribulations to get to a point where throughout that period of time, you’re eating. I call it depressive eating or whatever you want to call it. We eat to compensate. Yeah, well, it’s true. You know, some people call it boredom eating. For me, it’s just. I have. I have a problem. I’ve been up in weight and then down in weight throughout my life. And. And you talked about alcohol, but you had that transformative at 18, and then you still went through all that stuff to get to where you are today. If that transformative experience wouldn’t have happened, you know, it’s hard for you to know, but where do you think your life would be today? You still might have gone through the alcohol and divorce and the food addiction, but where do you think your life would be if you wouldn’t. If that wouldn’t have happened?

[00:32:49 – 00:34:58]
That’s a great question. And that leads me to this answer, which is something I’ve only figured out in the past few years. So I think, okay, so what happened was once I came down from that high frequency when I was 18, for those two weeks, no one talks about this, but there’s a. There’s a saying that says, before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood, carry water. Well, guess what? I’m up there. Cloud nine. And then I’m crashed down back into 3D time, space. Reality sucks. No one understood me. Everybody thought I was crazy. I didn’t have a tribe. There was no Internet back then. This was like 1992, 1993, something like that. And I didn’t have anyone to. I got depressed. So it actually was things that brought me down after because of the contrast, because I’m up so high, and then I’m like. It’s like coming down off of a drug. I was not drinking or on drugs at the time. By the way. But what I’m going to tell you, my drinking started, I started to drink more back then because I didn’t feel connected anymore. I went to feeling so connected to disconnected. And I was like, well, the only time I really feel connected to anybody more is if I’m drinking alcohol. Then I feel connected again. But to answer your question, I think this was all part of the plan. Like I needed to experience addiction. I needed to experience that struggle so that I could help people later. How can I, again, how can I teach people something that I haven’t personally experienced on a very deep level? You know, I thought, oh, well, you can’t stop eating. You’re, you’re just weak. Oh, you can’t say you can’t moderate your drinking. You know, again, just, you’re a weak person. And I know that the people who are, you know, really deep addicts that struggle a lot, they’re some of the smartest, most intelligent people you could meet. You know, sometimes they’re so self aware and so kind of aware of the world. You know, like if, when you, when you’re really intelligent, you could see how messed up the world really is. Do you know what I’m saying? And you don’t want to. Like, the smarter you are, the more that’s true. I mean, if you’re not, if you’re not depressed about the state of the world, you’re, you’re not paying attention, to be quite honest.

[00:34:58 – 00:35:35]
Well, if you’re smart though, you attract. All that stuff hurts, especially when you’re an empath. Like all the stuff that’s going on right now in the globe, in, in North America with Canada with their elections right now and just everything that’s going on, I’m like a, I’m like an antenna. I just pick it all up and I have to avoid, I go onto social very little. I protect myself because at the end of the day I don’t want to feel overwhelmed by all the grief that’s going on. I want more positive, emotional energy coming up toward us.

[00:35:35 – 00:35:56]
You’re protecting your energy. You’re protecting your energy. And part of Law of Attraction is what we focus on gets bigger. So that’s very smart. Like really like you. When you have a war against anything, you make it bigger. A war against drugs. The problem gets bigger. It’s really true. But we think it’s the right thing to do, to have a war against something. And we’re just making, creating a bigger.

[00:35:56 – 00:35:59]
Problem is what we’re doing deflecting from our own problems.

[00:35:59 – 00:36:01]
Yeah, and like we’re deflecting from our.

[00:36:01 – 00:36:44]
Own internal, our own internal challenges when we focus too much on politics, on whatever it is, celebrities, the traumas going on in the world, the tragedies, they are real. They’re never going to stop. But if we don’t protect ourselves, we get sucked into that, you know, rabbit hole and we never, ever truly grow and we just go to work, go home, get paid, live on the hamster wheel. And addictions are a reality. And those addictions affect, as you know, like, for me, I know it affected things that I necessarily weren’t affected. My marriage, I’ve been divorced a long time. It affected my friendships, it made me attract to people I normally wouldn’t be attracted to because I was looking for misery loves company.

[00:36:44 – 00:37:32]
Yep, exactly right. And all that stuff in the world is, it is real. And I’m not saying bury your head in the sand, but like you kind of said earlier, control it. Self awareness. We have to do stuff each and every day to keep our vibration high. We can’t just be like, it’s kind of like going to the gym where you’re like, okay, I’ve, I’ve hit my goal weight, my body’s looking how I want. I’m done now. You can’t. No, you have to do stuff to maintain it every single day. You, you can’t go back to your old ways. Same thing when it comes to your, your energy, your spirit. Like, that’s why I teach spiritual recovery. Mind, body, spirit. That you have to have all three of those things in check to really feel good and keep your vibration high. And you’re no longer tempted by these lower vibrational things anymore, like addiction.

[00:37:33 – 00:38:15]
Yeah. So you’re right. And one of the things that I want to make sure, I ask you, but it also intertwines in the fact that you said we associate with people, that we are normally going to be the same as us. So you associate and hung out with people that drank sometimes more than you? You know, at the end of the day, did you have friends and family that were aware of the state that we were in? Did you have anybody ever tried doing interventions with you and saying, Mary Beth, you eat too much or you drink too much, or were you that good at making sure your associations were exactly the same as you and then you didn’t hang out with people that might pick out the things that you find today? Where were, you know, character building flaws?

[00:38:15 – 00:38:36]
No one really thought I ate too much because I was pretty good at hiding that. And I never really Gained weight from it because I was too smart to do that. I, I did something called deading D, E, B, T, I, N, G, which most people know about. So, like, if I would eat something, like a sleeve of cookies, I would work it off, like, right away. Like, so I’d. Oh, it’s called like, you’re dead.

[00:38:36 – 00:38:37]
Oh, I see.

[00:38:37 – 00:38:38]
Does that make sense? So I never.

[00:38:39 – 00:38:40]
Yes, of course I didn’t.

[00:38:40 – 00:39:17]
I wasn’t bulimic or anorexic. I would eat stuff and then just make sure that I made up for it right away with exercise. So it’s not good. It’s not a healthy way to be. So I never got, like, overweight like that. Actually, the Most, I was 20 pounds overweight at one point before I quit drinking alcohol. And a lot of that was toxins from the alcohol, water retention. And that came off really quickly when I quit drinking alcohol. So. Hey, anyone listening? You can quit drinking just because of vanity reasons. You don’t have to be, you know, you don’t have to be in a, in a bad way. Like alcohol, you know, isn’t, it’s, it really doesn’t make anybody’s life better. We’ll just, we’ll just say that.

[00:39:17 – 00:40:16]
But also, as you mentioned. Yeah, of course. Exactly. Moderation. Like, I’d like how you talked about the dial. Right. Some people can dial it back. But one thing I did want to talk about, because I’ve had so many people, their lives destroyed by alcohol. I’ve had people die because of alcohol. The list goes on. The sense. It’s centralized. Sorry, I had to think. It’s, it’s centralized so much with television, with movies. You know, I, I, I tease and joke people, oh, let’s get together and go for a drink. Well, you know, I’m trying to replace that. Let’s get together and go for a coffee or tea or whatever. And if somebody says, oh, let’s go for a beer or wine or whatever, okay, well, that’s fine. But I don’t want to be part of the society where you turn on a movie or a television show. You try telling me that the first thing you don’t see, it’s the middle of a day, it’s a law office or whatever, and they’re pouring a drink here, have a drink.

[00:40:16 – 00:40:18]
Like they, yeah, they always have it in the door in their office.

[00:40:18 – 00:40:44]
It’s become so normal, Normalized. And again, I’m not against people that drink. I’m against it taking over their lives where they, they don’t control their outcome. Of their journey, of the, of the day or the week or month, year, that something controls. And I’ve been there, I’ve had. And so have you. You understand? It becomes controlling, it becomes normalized where we just, ah, it’s just who I am.

[00:40:44 – 00:41:40]
Part of the corporate world, like you know, and happy hours. Right. So like you asked earlier about if anyone thought I had a problem. My mom thought I had a problem with alcohol. And she would say all the time, but she was non drinker, never drank in her life. And so I would just think she just doesn’t know. Like, you know, she doesn’t understand. Yeah, she’s just lame and boring and I’m fine. Yeah, that’s what we can. We create these stories for ourselves. Right. To keep our addictions active. But yeah, she was right. And part of the problem was that I couldn’t really see it as a problem is I was a happy drunk. So I would drink and have and be fun. And I wasn’t like an angry drunk. Like in my son who’s 20, 22 now. He even took advantage of it when, when I would drink because I was really generous and he’d be like, hey mom, can I have this? You know, like, you know, let’s, let’s go.

[00:41:40 – 00:41:43]
You know, so he learned to manipulate you.

[00:41:44 – 00:42:06]
Master manipulator, dude. And it’s, it’s just so interesting that that was part of the reason that it was hard to tell I had a problem. But I can tell you it was messing with. I was messing with my health, messing with my sleep. It did, it did. Towards the end, it did make me more argumentative, but that didn’t happen. Alcohol is a progressive disease. Alcohol.

[00:42:06 – 00:42:08]
Of course it is. Yeah.

[00:42:08 – 00:43:00]
So like it. I quit before it got too bad, you know, so that’s why I was running two businesses. Like you said, functional. Once I got out of the corporate world, I didn’t drink as much because I was happier with my life. And I also want to reiterate that a lot of people go to addictions because of that numbing out because they want to escape their reality. They hate their life. I hated my corporate job. And that was why I’d be like, let’s go to happy hour. I didn’t miss a happy hour every day. I was there and I was off of my life path. You know, when we’re off of our life path, we’re depressed and we’re anxious and all these things our soul knows we came here for a purpose. And when we’re not passionate, we’re not waking up happy. And when we’re not waking up happy, we want to escape our reality and we want to fill that void because we feel empty, because we’re not living our purpose.

[00:43:00 – 00:43:44]
Well, and you’re exactly right. I’ve been there. You’ve been there. And the people that are listening are watching. So one of the things that we’ve touched on is that awareness. So somebody listening or watching that’s feeling that pain right now and wondering and having that maybe first time thought that maybe I do have a challenge with alcohol or food or whatever. What can they do? What would be some of their first steps that they could go forward with and that baby step instead of after done listening this and we don’t give them any actual information and they just, they forget it and they’re back on the same hamster wheel existence. Is there something that you could tell them to do, some steps to help them?

[00:43:44 – 00:44:27]
Yeah, this is a, kind of a weird one that you wouldn’t expect a law of attraction teacher to say. But what I’m going to tell you is to focus on the negative when it’s something you’re trying to quit. I want you to start listening to podcasts that discuss all of the bad things with like, let’s say it’s alcohol. Start listening to podcasts that describe all of the negatives with alcohol. People who have stories, like, start focusing on what it does to you. Because what I can tell you is it’s related to cancer. It causes cancer. It’s a carcinogenic. And it’s actually right up there with tobacco and, and tobacco companies actually used to pay doctors to advertise. I mean, we were.

[00:44:27 – 00:44:29]
I know, I’ve seen the ads.

[00:44:29 – 00:44:30]
Well, we were.

[00:44:30 – 00:44:31]
I’ve seen.

[00:44:31 – 00:44:31]
Right.

[00:44:31 – 00:44:47]
No, I’ve seen people. Well, you can go and look for them, though. Look, I’ve had people on the show that have showed, like, sent stuff to me and, and they showed me, like the ads that were back in the day where a doctor would be smoking a cigarette and a woman would be in the doctor’s room. I was just like, what?

[00:44:47 – 00:45:52]
Well, I think that’s what’s going on with alcohol right now. Like, because, you know, oh, you know, red wine’s good for you and all that stuff. You know, it’s got ethanol in it. It’s a poison. Ethanol is a poison. It’s rocket fuel. It’s gasoline, and we’re drinking it. So it’s not healthy for you. And now they’re finally starting to say it. Some neuroscientists are coming out saying it is not healthy for you. Any amount of alcohol is not healthy for you. So that was just kind of one of the tobacco things. Like it’s just, you know, if you look at the labels on alcohol, they will warn of birth defects and operating machinery, but they don’t talk about the cancer. It should be on there because anyone can do a quick Google search and see it does cause cancer. Breast cancer, colon cancer. I believe, I happen to believe autoimmune, we’re seeing a lot of autoimmune disease because of us poisoning ourselves daily. It’s become more and more acceptable to drink. And I think that’s why we’re seeing a lot more disease because we’re already getting, you know, our soil isn’t as healthy. I don’t think soil is healthy, but you know what I mean, it’s not as nutrient. Yeah, it needs to be more nutrient.

[00:45:52 – 00:45:58]
Because we over, we over farm it too. Like we overdo it and we don’t put nutrients back. But I like water.

[00:45:58 – 00:45:59]
Same thing.

[00:45:59 – 00:47:20]
Oh, of course. And we get to a point where people are, are drinking and they’re doing their addictive personalities and they don’t realize how it is affecting their body. Like I look at my nutritional education has gotten since my, I had kids, right? And I had kids with medical issues and let’s pop a pill, let’s push a pill, let’s do this, do that. And they don’t look at the holistic side. Like I know I was reading about you and you believe in the holistic and, and the natural side to help with your ADHD or all those things that could have been, you know, or probably were a misdiagnosis because of your genetic testing is found out different things. But you know, I look at our medical community, I’m not here to cut down the medical community at all. I have doctor clients. My daughter is dating a doctor and she’s a very high end nurse and the list goes on. This isn’t to pick on the medical community. This is to pick on the pharmaceutical companies that go into doctors and they woo them and take them golfing or, or give whatever because you know, they give them fancy meals and next thing you know you come in and you’ve got problems. Oh, we’re going to diagnose you with irritable bowel syndrome. We’re going to give you a prescription. Here you go. Nowhere does it say, hey, let’s, let’s analyze your, your life. Let’s analyze what a life.

[00:47:20 – 00:47:22]
That there’s no Lifestyle change. They just are trained.

[00:47:22 – 00:47:32]
It’s not their fault, but they’re trained that way. And the pharmaceutical companies drive the train. I’m sorry. And I have an issue with.

[00:47:33 – 00:47:51]
They’re paying for medical school so that, so they control how they’re educated. And doctors are not educated on the root cause of anything. They’re educated on standard of care, diagnose them and give them a pill. That’s how they’re educated. They’re not, they’re not taught to look for the root cause of anything or to offer a lifestyle change because that’s.

[00:47:51 – 00:49:08]
Why they need us to work with them. They need people like us to help them understand, to become self aware. And one of the things you talked about, you know, coaching and stuff. So you had to go through all this to be the person you are. I had to go through all my stuff to be the person you that I am to help people. If you’re watching or listening to this podcast, if somebody’s giving you advice that has not gone down a road of what they’re helping you with, they can’t really relate. They can, they can be like pressing a play button and, and regurgitate information, but relatability, accountability to their own things and then education to become better so that they can help others is the type of coach you should be looking for. You don’t need somebody that is an influencer that says they, they can help you. Or here, buy this course for 9.95 or 4.95 or 2 thou, whatever the cost is. We’re going to change your life. Yet you look behind their facade and you open it up and look at it and it’s like what you are teaching and educating people. There’s so many facades out there today that really don’t know how to help people and they cause more damage and they make it harder for us too, in my opinion.

[00:49:08 – 00:49:33]
There’s so many fake influencers out there. And even if it’s a therapist you’re looking for, I mean, like, you have to find somebody who like, has been through it. And it’s really hard to find in therapy. It really is. Like, I have people struggling, like, but then every now and then you can find, oh, okay, I need help with my ocd. And they find a therapist who actually has struggled with it themselves. That’s what you want to find if you can’t.

[00:49:34 – 00:50:20]
Oh yeah, that’s. I love that. You know, why are we not interviewing our therapists? Why are we not, why are we not interviewing them and asking the tough questions? What is your relatability to what I’m going through? You. You book studied, you went to university, college, whatever you’ve got, even if you got 10 years in the game, are you just regurgitating what you’ve heard from other people? And then you threw something at some spaghetti at the wall and it helped them. Like, don’t get me wrong, I know psychologists and psychiatrists go through training. They understand patterns. But somebody that understands the patterns, I want them tied to the fact that they struggle through it. Right. Or maybe, maybe it was somebody close in there. It could be somebody close in their family, even something to be relatable.

[00:50:20 – 00:50:25]
Sorry, I was just saying psychology is such a new science too. And you know, it is.

[00:50:25 – 00:50:27]
People don’t get that.

[00:50:27 – 00:51:08]
And everybody’s so individual. And that’s something I learned through the hard way when I became a coach. So like the first year I was like, first of all, I was accepting anyone as a client, which it turns out, no, not every, like we said earlier, not everybody’s your match. And anyone who constantly text me now, if I don’t feel like we’re a good vibrational match, I’m going to always have somebody. I can guide them somewhere else. I always will. I won’t leave you hanging. But I can tell you if it’s not going to be a good match as work because we’re working as partners. But what I used to think is we’re going to do this in session one, this in session two, this in session. And it’s not how it works, you know, be like I have.

[00:51:08 – 00:51:09]
I can’t be.

[00:51:09 – 00:51:12]
No, everybody’s individual. You got to meet them where they are.

[00:51:13 – 00:51:14]
Like our fingerprint teenagers.

[00:51:15 – 00:51:19]
Yeah, exactly. I have clients who are teenagers and I have up to 60 right now.

[00:51:19 – 00:51:20]
Wow.

[00:51:20 – 00:52:11]
How do I do the same thing with everybody? Everyone is such in such different places. And I do teach people how to use their own internal guidance system. I think we all have a direct connection with God. And just some people disconnected themselves through addiction through just constant distractions. You know, we all distract ourselves. You know, our cell phones are like. It’s a dopamine hit. The addicts are who you got to put your phone away. Guys. If you sit there and you find yourself scrolling and scrolling and scrolling, that’s dopamine hit over and over. That is, it’s. They’re actually designed to get you addicted. So you just really got to put your phone in a different room. Sometimes, you know, you have to put it away because it’s meant to keep you distracted. And that ruins our direct connection with God. I believe our intuition is how God speaks through us. But if you’re always distracted, you don’t go out in nature, you don’t meditate. How do you hear God?

[00:52:11 – 00:53:49]
Well, I love that, like, and I totally agree with that 1000% million percent. Because at the end of the day, if you aren’t connecting with things outside of the normal noise and what society wants to project on us, how are you really living? Like, I, I. And that’s back to having gratefulness and gratitude. Because I know you believe in that yourself. Like, just the little things. Like, people like, you know, I get up and I’m going like, holy. I’m so blessed to get up I. Into a. I got a roof over my head. I got a fridge that’s got food in it. I can brush. I get to brush my teeth. I get to take a shower. How many people aren’t experiencing that? The billions of people not experience what I have. So that. And I talk about this because that appreciation makes me realize I’ve got so much more than other people. I’m blessed and highly favored. Yes, I’ve got trials and tribulations, but my goodness, you know, I appreciate what I have, and I’m going to build on that and continue to get better so that I can serve others. If I’m not fully connected to me, how can I serve anybody? Just like you, Mary Beth, how can you serve anybody if you wouldn’t have these realizations, these stories and these things, these amazing things that you’re sharing makes you the perfect person for somebody to communicate with again. No, I agree with you. You have to have that synergy. You have to have that chemistry. I turn away clients when I just don’t feel like. I feel like I’m going to be talking to a wall or that it’s. You know what I mean? Or they find out they’ve gone from person to person to person. You know, at least clues, too.

[00:53:49 – 00:54:55]
Like, nobody’s gonna quit any addiction until they’ve made a decision themselves that they’re ready and they’re done with it. You know, as long as they’re still having some type of fun with it or it’s still serving some sort of purpose for them. They’re still getting relief, whatever it might be. They’re not ready to commit. So, like, a coach really can’t help somebody who’s not committed. We can’t be committed for somebody else. And that’s something important for people to realize. A lot of people I could tell they’re relying on motivation. And motivation does not stay for anybody. You got to rely on. You got to rely on self discipline and commitment. Motivation is going to come and go. Like I always say, Olympic athletes are not motivated every day. They just are committed and they do it. They do the work. So I get up in the morning. Do you think I want to work out every day? No. But I kind of like you said with the thankfulness, I’m like, I’m so lucky that I am my physical body as well. And I get to work out today. It’s a change of a mindset. Like, just tweak it, you know, reframe it. It’s not like I have to work out. Yay. I get to work out. My body works. Some people are in a wheelchair. Some people are injured and they can’t do it.

[00:54:56 – 00:54:57]
Some people aren’t around anymore.

[00:54:58 – 00:55:22]
Yeah. Or chronic pain, you know, and like, I mean, I get a little bit of pain sometimes, and I start feeling really sad for people who just have it every day, you know, like, I’m like, oh, my gosh, I’m such a baby. Like, my lower back hurts, you know? And I’m thinking, there’s people who just live with chronic pain every single day. And it’s, you know, then that snaps me out of it real quickly and to gets me into appreciation mode, which is a very high frequency.

[00:55:23 – 00:55:48]
Oh, of course. We’re running out of time. And I. Like I mentioned earlier, we could probably talk for hours. I really want to, though. I got two more questions. One of them, though, is I’d like you to talk about your deck of 44 cards. Right. And. And how it ties into what you do into your practice and into your life. Explain to me the creation of it and what can people expect utilizing this?

[00:55:50 – 00:58:29]
So I was already sober, and I want to say this was 2019, 2020. I’m out walking my dog, and it was a beautiful sunny day, and I was in what I call the vortex. Abraham Hicks labeled it the vortex, which is the highest vibrations. Appreciation, joy, love, all of that. I just got again, gotten to that high frequency. And when I was there, this idea to create these cards was downloaded to me. Like, I didn’t have a thought in my mind. And if you could tell by just me talking, I’ve got the monkey brain. My mind’s got a lot of chatter going on. So for me to have a quiet moment out there where I’m able to receive this inspired idea, you know, doesn’t happen often, but I did. I received it And I know enough about when you, anyone listening, when you receive some inspired idea like this, you need to take action on it like we were talking about earlier. Otherwise someone else is there. Anyone who’s in tune with that specific frequency, they’re going to also receive that idea and they’re going to do it. So it was all of the. I received this idea to create this deck of cards. They’re law of attraction cards meant to raise your vibration and teach law of attraction. There’s so many, there’s so much misinformation and you’ve superstitions about how law of Attraction works. So, you know, I’ve been studying it since 2006. We’re in 2025. So that’s a long time that I’ve been studying and trying mastering it. And I see so much stuff out there, especially on social media that makes me cringe with this really bad information of how it actually works. And you, you seem to know like you figure it out. You can’t just sit there and, and think positive thoughts and have things flow to you. It takes us a lot of, we’re getting ourselves in alignment. A lot of this stuff is subconscious. We all have a point of attraction which is basically all of our, every single belief that we’ve ever had since birth. Okay. And then it also is our momentum on a subject. So relationships, you’re going to have a momentum. You’re going to have a momentum with finances, your money, you’re going to have a momentum with your health and our, our careers. So we’re going to have different momentums. Like I’m really good with making money relationships. Since I’ve had toxic relationships, my momentum is not that great. You know, I’m still working on those subconscious beliefs and patterns. You know, I’m still working on that, you know, so that I can attract the, the mate that’s going to be a better match to what I’ve now aligned with vibrationally. Right?

[00:58:30 – 00:58:31]
You’re not gonna settle?

[00:58:31 – 00:59:42]
I’m not gonna settle. There’s not a lot of people who do as much personal development work as you know, and, and I need somebody like that. So to answer your question, this idea was, was given to me and I took immediate action and started creating the DECA card. Actually was making them over 2020 and I hired an artist because if I did the artwork, it would have been stick finger, stick figures. Beautiful, beautiful art. It took, it took a year because she was so busy that she only did. Worked on four of these cards at a time. And I’d Be like, but I need her. I need her to be an artist. And I was explained to her, you know, okay, this card’s gonna be this, and I want this. And she was able to, like, take these visuals right out of my brain and bring them to life. It was magical. And so the purpose of the cars, you pick one each morning, and one side has the picture and the other side has the content. And you follow those instructions each morning. It raises your vibration and it gives you your focus for the day. And it’s. It’s. When you master these law of attraction techniques, you’re going to be raising your vibration. The more you raise your vibration, the less you’re going to be tempted to go back to your old way because you feel good. You don’t have a void to fill anymore.

[00:59:42 – 01:00:04]
Well. And you become magnetic, right, Looking for that. Looking for that ultimate tribe, or as you mentioned, finding that ultimate partner that can resonate, that can feel your energy, appreciate your energy, give you back the same thing and not be what a lot of our relationships we have, they become energy vampires. All.

[01:00:04 – 01:00:05]
They’re like codependent.

[01:00:05 – 01:01:19]
Yeah. Oh, my. Oh, my gosh. And I look at the relationships I’ve had. That’s. And I’ve been divorced for 20 some years, and I look at the relationships I’ve had over that period of time and the women I’ve been with, and I don’t want to say they’re broken, but they’re at a resonate. Their vibration, their resin resonant energy is not where I’m at. They’re caught so hard on the hamster wheel. They haven’t get. I’m not saying I don’t have baggage, people, but I’ve learned to unpack it and learn to deal with it. And once in a while, guess what? I still hit the value to spare. And something hits me that I have pushed back, compartmentalized. And it hits me like a wall of bricks, and I’m just like, wow, I thought I dealt with that. Or, wow, I didn’t realize I had that going on. So my point is, is this is an evolution till the day you take your last breath. I’m looking for my ultimate partner, too, but I am not going to settle. I’m not going to settle with something that somebody that’s camped in life, they’re. They’re constantly flat, flatline camp. Can’t wait till Friday night to start their addiction. Hate Sunday because they know Monday’s there. I just. I want to be with somebody that doesn’t care what day of the week.

[01:01:19 – 01:01:24]
It is a growth mindset. Yeah. Can’t have that fixed mindset. They have to.

[01:01:25 – 01:01:26]
So hard to find.

[01:01:26 – 01:03:09]
Yeah, yeah. Not a lot of people, you know, a lot of people’s, their identity is based on these addictions, their identity, and they are afraid to lose their identity. They don’t know who they are without the addiction or whatever it may be they’re struggling with. So they’re wrapped around it and they don’t want to change. Like, not everybody’s going to want to change. You have some people if, if what we’re talking about, if it plants a seed and you’re like, oh, wait a minute, you know, and start listening, start really thinking about, okay, what does alcohol do? For instance, if we’re focused on alcohol, all the negatives, and then just decide, you know, and it might not be right away that you want to change. You know, allow stepping stones. You might, you might want to, you know, just give it some time. I didn’t decide overnight that I wanted to quit. You know, I, I tried to keep it. I was like, well, I’ll just drink organic wine or, or, or, or like, I even tried to do beer one time because I don’t really like beer. But I thought just to turn you off, I won’t, I won’t, I won’t do, I won’t drink so much of it because it’s filling and I don’t like it. But then you know what it did, it just, I would get a buzz from the beer and then I’d order a wine. So that didn’t work, you know, but yeah, I tried to keep it in my life for a while until I just realized this no longer is a match for me. It started to give me, I almost developed an allergy to it. And honestly, people who raise their vibration, you become not a vibrational match to a substance and it, you can’t tolerate it anymore. It doesn’t match your body. I started to get rashes. I started to get all kinds of, all kinds of problems from drinking. It’s kind of like alcohol quit me, if that makes sense.

[01:03:10 – 01:03:11]
Oh, it does make sense. Absolutely.

[01:03:11 – 01:03:30]
My energy shifted too much. I could no longer tolerate it. There’s people who’ve had near death experiences and come back and they can no longer drink alcohol because it no longer matches. So I think that’s a thing. And I’ve heard the story more than once and not, you didn’t necessarily have to die and come back to no longer be a catch. You just have to raise your vibration.

[01:03:31 – 01:03:48]
Exactly we could go on and on. I’m gonna wrap up the show here right away just for. Just to add on about your deck of 44 cards. We’ll make sure that’s in the show notes that you can reach out and purchase these cards. They sound amazing.

[01:03:48 – 01:03:50]
I want to give your viewers a code. A coupon code.

[01:03:51 – 01:03:52]
Yeah, go ahead, Go ahead.

[01:03:52 – 01:04:00]
So we’ll make it give a heck. Well, that’ll be the code to type in give a heck and $10 off for any of your viewers.

[01:04:01 – 01:04:20]
That is awesome. I’ll make sure that goes in the show notes. And the last thing I want to ask you because I’m pushing my limit here with your time and I apologize, but I ask everybody this. Mary Beth, if you had to give our listeners one last closing message, what would you tell them in regards to giving a heck and never giving up up?

[01:04:21 – 01:04:53]
You know, I think I want to really push self care on people because a lot, especially if you’re spiritual, like a lot of people think it’s spiritual to just be all about everybody else and put yourself last. But really you kind of said something similar earlier. Like we have to take care of ourselves first before we’re going to be available and able to help other people at the. The best way we can. So make sure that you’re doing everything you can to take care of yourself. Get to bed, you know, get to bed like that. Sleep is so important. Are you putting.

[01:04:53 – 01:04:55]
Drink lots of water.

[01:04:55 – 01:05:38]
Yes. And exercise. You know, be mindful of what you’re putting in your body. Food is so important. Like doctors, you know, they just weren’t trained. They have like less than a semester on nutrition. Guys, don’t listen to your doctor. Everybody’s body is different. Eat real food. Eat whole foods. You might not necessarily be good for you to eat the food pyramid. I’m just saying that’s not necessarily the good, the best diet. So look into that because that really helped me when I found the best diet for me personally. So care about what you eat, what you’re putting in your body. Food is our medicine especially. And I just want everybody to make sure they take care of themselves and don’t feel guilty about it because we can’t pour from an empty cup, right?

[01:05:38 – 01:06:03]
Oh, exactly. I agree. Nutrition sleep as an interjected water because people don’t drink enough water. They’re dehydrated, it makes them sleepy, so they drink caffeine. And I’m not against. I love coffee. But at the end of the day, a lot of how we feel is directly tied to what we put in our body. So I appreciate you saying that. Any last final words before we wrap up the show?

[01:06:03 – 01:07:11]
Just take 15 minutes to quiet your mind each day. It doesn’t have to be some sort of like, like meditation where you’re all like, got candles and you’re sitting on a cushion. You don’t have to do that. Just take 15 minutes each day to really quiet your mind and try to connect to God, your source, your intuition. Try to connect to your internal guidance system, your higher self, whatever you want to call it, the universe. Just take those 15 minutes each day because that is going to change your life and it will. You’re going to have thoughts that come in and that’s okay. People think, oh, I’m not supposed to have, you know, I have to be totally quiet. You just notice those thoughts. You just really. Meditation is focusing on one thing. So if you could put on a guided meditation, if that helps you to get rid of the mind chatter, you could focus on looking at a candle. Like, it doesn’t have to be. It’s just focusing on one thing. It doesn’t mean everything’s completely empty. And you might only have two quiet minutes out of those 15. But it’s still good because you took that time, you carved that time out of your day. And that will change your whole day. It really does. Especially when you do it consistently. You can’t just do it once or twice. It, it’s.

[01:07:11 – 01:07:13]
It build a habit, cumulative.

[01:07:13 – 01:07:16]
It builds on itself and it does raise your vibration.

[01:07:17 – 01:08:17]
Oh, absolutely. I try. That’s why I, I create the habit of doing. You can call it gratefulness, gratitude or reflection for that 15 minutes. I don’t need to necessarily. I’m not saying meditation isn’t working work. I just decide to do it before I swing my legs out of bed and get out of bed. I decide when I go to bed to make that a part of what I do and who I am. So just work at work at defining yourself, those listening or watching, you can find a definition of what you want to be. We don’t know your time frame, how long it’s going to take, but take that first baby step because at the end of the day, giving a heck is required to live a purposeful, intentful life. Life. It doesn’t, it doesn’t come by snapping your fingers. Takes effort. So thanks again. I appreciate your time. So thanks so much for being on give a Heck. Mary Beth. I appreciate your time and sharing some of your experiences so that others too can learn. It’s never too late to give a heck.