🎙️ Move the Line: Embrace Buffet Thinking with Dwight Heck
Host: Dwight Heck
Podcast: Give A Heck
🔥 Episode Overview
Have you ever caught yourself saying, “I will never forgive them,” or “I’m just not good with money,” or “That’s just how I am”? These aren’t just thoughts; they are lines in the sand that keep you trapped in limiting beliefs and stuck in survival mode.
In this powerful solo episode, Dwight challenges you to examine the invisible walls you’ve built around your mindset and explore what happens when you dare to move those lines. He introduces the concept of buffet thinking, the art of trying new ideas, keeping what serves you, and leaving behind what doesn’t.
💬 What You Will Learn
- Why the lines you draw in the sand become walls that stop you from growing
- How social media algorithms keep you trapped in confirmation bias
- The difference between being open-minded and just thinking you are
- Practical strategies for breaking free from keyboard warrior syndrome
- Why your past self doesn’t deserve eternal loyalty, but your future self deserves a chance
🧠 Breaking Free from Mental Prisons
Dwight shares how to recognize when you’re living in an echo chamber of your own opinions. He offers real examples of people who moved their lines and transformed their lives:
- The high school dropout who now teaches financial literacy
- The domestic abuse survivor who leads healing circles
- The political cynic who became a civil engagement educator
🍽️ The Buffet Mentality Revolution
Learn why approaching life like a buffet, trying new ideas, tasting different perspectives, and returning for more of what nourishes you, can completely change your trajectory. Dwight explores:
- How to challenge beliefs that once served but now limit you
- The importance of surrounding yourself with people who help you climb instead of staying stuck
- Why failure is simply a stepping stone to your next level of success
This episode is packed with practical wisdom for anyone feeling trapped by their own limiting beliefs or stuck in patterns that no longer serve them. Whether you’re dealing with financial struggles, relationship challenges, or simply feeling like you’re living the same day over and over again, you’ll find actionable strategies to start moving forward.
🎯 Final Message
Your lines in the sand are not cemented. You can move them. Reinvention is not a luxury; it is a necessity. Listen now and start giving a heck about creating the life you actually want to live.
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📄 Unedited Transcript – Part 1
🎙️ Give A Heck Podcast – Solo Episode
🗣️ Host: Dwight Heck
🕒 Duration: 00:00:00 – approx. 00:20:00
Welcome back to the Give a Heck podcast, where we challenge survival mode and choose intentional living. Today’s episode is for anyone who has ever said, “I will never forgive them,” “I am just not good with money,” “Politics are hopeless,” or “That is just how I am.” Plus, so many more things that we could pick out of the air in regards to what people say that is very negative, that keeps them camped in their mindset.
So these are not just thoughts. They’re lines in the sand. I’ll say that again. These are lines in the sand. Have you ever been in your life where you’ve literally drawn that virtual line in the sand that nobody can go over, you won’t allow? It’s a boundary. It’s done to either protect your biases in life or it’s to protect your mental health stability.
And there’s nothing wrong with people having boundaries. People having biases though, and not being willing to learn and maybe change their thought process. And those that change their thought process get stuck in that bias. Even when they find out different truths, they still share the same bias because they’re afraid of what people will think or say.
Like, for an example, “Well, you used to believe that, Dwight, but now I hear this from you.” Well, and they’re sometimes arrogant about it. Sometimes people are just inquisitive. So, you know, at the end of the day, I’m a person that if things change in my mindset, I’m going to say to people, “You’re right. I used to believe that.” But upon further investigation and education and deep thought process with not just myself, obviously, with people I belong to in masterminds, and we literally just do what we need to do to understand and realize that, hey, it’s okay to have your mind change.
It’s okay to admit to somebody, “Things that I used to believe are no longer true or serve me.” So I’m going to ensure that I let you know that I feel differently. You don’t have to still spew the same things that are broken, that did not serve you or serve others just because you’re worried about what other people’s opinions are.
Those that are in your tribe that are willing to help you increase your mindset, including their own mindset, are willing to think outside the box. They’re willing to admit that they have faults and failings and that maybe what they thought was wrong.
If the group of people you’re hanging out with or what you constantly read or constantly search out for in people or media — whether it’s social or traditional media or books or articles or whatever the case may be — always fits your narrative, that’s considered a form of confirmation bias. And you can defend it all you want, but it is an actual fact. It is an actual term, and you can look it up and find out more details and see how it maybe applies for you.
So this podcast is going to be titled, appropriately, Move the Line, Embrace Buffet Thinking. I’ll say that again. Move the Line, Embrace Buffet Thinking. And this podcast will discuss that. This solo podcast — and those that have listened to my show for the last five years — knows I’ve talked about confirmation bias and buffet thinking.
So some of this will be new to you, some of it won’t. Some of it might clarify some things. Maybe it’ll make you have those aha moments.
📄 Unedited Transcript – Part 2
🎙️ Give A Heck Podcast – Solo Episode
🗣️ Host: Dwight Heck
🕒 Duration: approx. 00:20:01 – 00:40:00
Once you draw that line, you start building walls around it. You stop exploring. You stop listening. You stop growing. Social media feeds you, as I mentioned, what you already believe. Your circle echoes your opinions. And you, without realizing it, start living in a buffet of ideas but only eating the same dish over and over again.
You go to that buffet and you only like certain dishes, so you only eat that. Maybe there are some dishes you know you don’t enjoy, so you leave them behind — and that’s fair. But now, all of a sudden, you come back to that buffet — we’ll use the food analogy — and there are new foods there, but you’re not willing to try them. You say, “I won’t like that,” or “I don’t like that sort of food.”
Maybe that’s true. Maybe you don’t like it because it says it’s spicy. But maybe it’s just because you’re so stuck in your ways that you go to the buffet and take the same things all the time. You’ve lost that edge — the ability to try new things and say, “I really didn’t like that. Thank goodness I only took a little bit on my plate. I’m never eating that again.” But you stretched your vision. You stretched your ability to think outside those walls that I just mentioned.
So, you know, eating that same thing over and over again, thinking the same thing over and over again — if it’s morally right and it serves society and it creates unity and kindness, keep on eating that dish. But if every time you spout off, it causes or triggers things in you that you’re starting to realize — or maybe you haven’t started to realize it — or you watch the body language of people around you and how they respond to your conversations or your comments, whether it’s in print or auditory, whether it’s face to face or just on a phone call — maybe there are some problems that we need to address.
And I’ve been that person. Guess what? I’ve been addressing and working on myself now since I stepped into the personal development world in 1993. And I continue to evolve and change. Sometimes I slide back into the valley of despair. And thank goodness my tribe or the people in my group that support me are people that will help me climb out of it. They won’t add gasoline to the fire to make it even worse. They’ll literally say, “Hey, what’s your issue? Why are you focused on this? Have you thought about the other side? Here, let’s think about it together. Let’s work on it together.”
Hopefully, you can find a tribe like that. I’ve been so blessed and highly favored to build a tribe — especially in the last five years since I actually created and have been working on the Give a Heck brand. Very young brand, right? When you think about it, my business and what I do and how I life coach and help people with their mental challenges in regards to life and money — a lot of it’s centered on my own life and all the clients I’ve helped and served and supported over the last, now going on 25 years.
So again, I’m not perfect. I’m not saying I’m perfect. This is just my thoughts, my opinions based on my lifetime of being an entrepreneur and dealing with people and the human condition and understanding that it is so important how we say things, when we say it, when to say things, when to walk away, when to just listen and nod our head and just agree to disagree.
So I hope you enjoy this one-side conversation with myself — solo episode again — and certainly reach out to me. Let’s have discussions in a very nice way. Stay on topic and let’s not continue to create division in our society. Let’s create unity through great conversation.
📄 Unedited Transcript – Part 3
🎙️ Give A Heck Podcast – Solo Episode
🗣️ Host: Dwight Heck
🕒 Duration: approx. 00:40:01 – 01:00:00
Social media — huge, huge problem today. The algorithms are designed to ensure that you are only circled with echoes of your own opinion. Listen to that. You circle around you — pardon me — the algorithm circles around you things and only shows you what it thinks you want to see. Why do they do that? Because they don’t want you to leave. They want you to stay on longer and longer so that the ads keep on getting fed to you.
There are ads on every single platform that you have to go through because that’s how they make their money — so that you can have that free service. So those algorithms are designed to keep you stuck, not to give you differing opinions of what you’re believing at the moment and help you dig out of them or think differently.
Maybe it confirms when you hear the other side and you do it on more than one occasion. You’re able to make a better right decision based on the fact, “Oh, I never thought about that.” But even though I thought about that, I still believe what I’m going to believe. But you know what the key on that is? You’re open minded to hear the other side and be actually open minded — not just tell people you think that you’re open minded.
So again, social media circles and echoes your opinion by giving you only what it thinks you want to see — so you’ll stay on so they can show you some more ads and make more money. It’s not about helping you grow. It’s about helping you stay stuck.
So we’ll go on to the next thing here. And you know, sometimes this is going to be something that it’s really hard for people to deal with. You start living in the buffet of ideas that are thrown at you and you’re only taking those same dishes. But you just get stuck on that hamster wheel, right? Always. You never think anything different. You wake up thinking the same thoughts. Throughout the day — same thoughts. Go to bed — same thoughts.
And a lot of that has to do with our associations. The associations of what we experience when we first get up and what we listen to. I have clients, family, and friends — the first thing in the morning, they’ve got the news on. Why would you want to start your day out that way?
Myself, personally, I don’t get it. They say they want to stay informed. Is the news mostly based on positive or is it based on negative? Is it designed to showcase and highlight the great things that are going on around your local community, town, your city, your province, state, your country? Or is it designed to share all the negativity?
It’s designed to share all the negativity — is the answer. So why would you start your day out that way?
And I’ve had conversations with so many people that start out their day with the news. I have, again, family, friends, clients that do that. We don’t get into heated battles. They just tell me why they like it. It makes them feel complete — and that’s fine. If it doesn’t evoke stress in your chest, in your mindset, or in your heart, then fine — watch it.
But most people — it does. It creates a negative stepping stone for you to start your day. And then you go to work and then you have people around the water cooler conversations that are talking about drama in their lives or something they watched or they heard or something that’s gone on in an arena or in the medical industry. Maybe they’ve got family strife and they pick up on that negativity and maybe they join the negativity — or it just affects them because they hear it.
And you go through your day like that. You take lunch. You’re in the lunchroom — maybe at your place — you go out for a bite to eat with some people and it continues on. Very little positivity. Then you go and you eat a big lunch and then the afternoon comes around and the same thing starts over.
Then maybe you come home to it. Maybe your evening’s like that. Maybe everything you do from the moment — the times you’re in your control versus somebody paying you to have control of your time — now you’re in control of your own time and you’re watching and reading and feeding your brain your confirmation bias of what you’re looking for to make you feel the same way.
📄 Unedited Transcript – Part 4
🎙️ Give A Heck Podcast – Solo Episode
🗣️ Host: Dwight Heck
🕒 Duration: approx. 01:00:01 – 01:20:00
So I don’t know how to say it, but at the end of the day, we need to realize that we need to surround ourselves with more positivity than negativity. We need to surround ourselves with more information that maybe challenges how we think so that we can either confirm that our thinking is correct — not just through reading and listening to other people, but actually having conversations with people that are similar to us but not confirmation-wise in the sense that they’ll challenge us and say, “Have you thought about this? Have you thought about that?”
And once you find that tribe of people, your life will be better. Now you control your own time. After work, are you reading good books? Again, fiction books are great, but nonfiction books teach. Most fiction books are centered around dramas and other people’s lives. Drama movies, drama TV shows — again, I’m not against them. I’m saying maybe you need to dial that back. Start out with one hour less of that a day and feed other things that are good into your brain.
Maybe a good book. A good podcast. A good conversation with somebody you know that’s very uplifting. Maybe you need to watch a documentary — something that’s going to feed your brain, which is a giant computer and doesn’t understand the difference between a truth and a lie and needs you to input that change into your brain.
You will start noticing differences in your life if you start doing those little baby steps to create a different mindset. It helps through a lot of emotional and mental challenges. It can help alleviate anxiety, depression. It can help in so many ways. And I’m talking through experience.
I’m a student of human nature. I am going to be a student the rest of my life to continue to grow and continue to surround myself with people that will help me grow so that I can be part of their tribe, they can be part of my tribe, and we can help each other. We can support one another. We can have those moments and realize, “You know, I shouldn’t have said that the other day to you,” or “I shouldn’t have commented that way and typed it out. I’m sorry. I made a mistake. This was what was going on and I should have just walked away from it.”
How many of you walk away from things that are going to make you feel like garbage? Or do you feed into it and then just perpetuate that perpetual motion of negativity? How many? Right? I’ve been there. I’m not saying I’m perfect.
Everything we’re going to discuss — or I’m going to discuss or share with you today — we can discuss this obviously through the comments or you can DM me. If you know me personally, you can obviously give me a text or a call. For those that want to get into that kind of conversation, you can go on my website and book a virtual call. We’ll have a conversation.
You know, I really do want to help people and I think all of us want to serve and help and do best for people.
📄 Unedited Transcript – Part 5
🎙️ Give A Heck Podcast – Solo Episode
🗣️ Host: Dwight Heck
🕒 Duration: approx. 01:20:01 – 01:24:53
So we’re going to dive in today. Again, like I talked about — confirmation bias, some more of the buffet mentality, and the keyboard warrior syndrome that is getting out of hand.
And again, social media companies — shame on you. Every one of you. Your algorithms just want to feed people what they’re starting to watch. Maybe they’re new to social media, maybe they’re long-time — so you can feed them more and more ads, so you can become wealthier and wealthier and put more and more billions in your pocket and still not really make a difference in society or help people.
You are definitely not part of the solution of society to uplift. You’re part of the problem, and it’s become toxic. So anybody out there listening to this that is part of that challenge — shame on you. Do better. Billionaires — do better. How about you, instead of griping and complaining, make a difference and put your money where your mouth is and start helping society?
Let’s get back to that village mentality, which we’ll touch on a bit later if we have time.
So we will talk politics. It’s part of life. It’s part of what gets people all wired up — especially the algorithms. Personal growth — so important. And the stories of people who moved their line and changed their lives. Because the sand — the line in the sand — is not cement. You can move that line.
Let us dig in.
And just as a heads up for those watching on YouTube — I spent quite a bit of time putting this together, this conversation. So I’m going to look down. I’m going to read things that I wrote today to keep myself on track, to make sure I cover as much as I can in the time that I’m going to allot for this podcast discussion from me to you.
And then again — offline comments, whatever — we can certainly get into things.
So the line in the sand — first thing we’re going to really focus on: beliefs that once served but now limit. Say that again — the line in the sand: beliefs that once served but now limit.