Crafting Your Intentional Life Roadmap for True Fulfillment
Are you living life on autopilot, feeling stuck in a cycle of unfulfillment? In this eye-opening solo episode, I delve into the seven pillars of intentional living that can help you break free from survival mode and start thriving. Drawing from my own experiences as a single father, divorcee, and someone who’s faced profound loss, I offer a roadmap to help you realign your life with purpose.
The Seven Pillars of Intentional Living
- Financial Alignment
Discover why earning more isn’t always the answer and how understanding the rules of money can transform your financial outlook. Learn to align your spending with your values and build a foundation for true wealth.
- Mental Mindfulness
Unpack the mental clutter that’s sabotaging your decisions. I share my personal strategies for journaling, reflection, and coaching to help you achieve mental clarity – a necessity for every aspect of your life.
- Physical Investment
Your body is the vessel that carries your purpose. Learn why treating movement, sleep, and nutrition as assets is crucial for achieving your goals and living a purposeful life.
- Emotional Literacy
Understand how emotions drive your decisions and behaviour. I explain why developing emotional intelligence is essential for creating a robust financial strategy and living intentionally.
- Continuous Learning
Explore why personal development is the bridge between where you are and where you want to be. I share insights on how to keep growing and avoid the pitfalls of complacency.
- Intentional Routines
Success is built on daily choices. Learn how to structure your days around what truly matters and create routines that reflect your core values.
- Storytelling Power
Discover the healing and connecting power of sharing your story. I explain how vulnerability can be a strength and why learning to tell your story effectively is crucial for personal growth.
This episode is packed with actionable advice for anyone feeling lost or stuck in their current life situation. Whether you’re struggling with finances, relationships, or finding your purpose, you’ll find guidance to help you start living intentionally.
Don’t miss this opportunity to reframe your perspective on success and start giving a heck about your whole self. Tune in now and take the first step towards living life on purpose, not by accident!
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Chapter summaries:
00:00:02
Introduction to Intentional Living: 7 Pillars for a Purposeful Life
Dwight Heck introduces the concept of intentional living and its seven pillars: financial alignment, mental mindfulness, physical investment, emotional literacy, continuous learning, intentional routines, and storytelling power. He emphasizes the importance of living purposefully across various aspects of life.
00:02:02
Financial Alignment: Understanding Money and Aligning Spending with Values
Heck discusses the importance of financial literacy and aligning spending with personal values. He emphasizes the need to understand how money works and to seek guidance from experienced mentors to achieve financial clarity and stability.
00:05:32
Mental Mindfulness: Journaling and Reflection for Clarity and Growth
Heck explores mental mindfulness, highlighting the importance of journaling, reflection, and gratitude exercises. He shares his personal approach to journaling and emphasizes the need for action and consistency in implementing insights gained from self-reflection.
00:11:02
Physical Investment: Prioritizing Health for Overall Well-being
Heck stresses the importance of physical health, treating movement, sleep, and nutrition as valuable assets. He shares personal experiences with health challenges and emphasizes that good health is crucial for achieving life goals.
00:15:32
Emotional Literacy: Understanding and Managing Emotions for Better Decision-Making
Heck discusses the significance of emotional intelligence in personal and financial decisions. He emphasizes the need to understand emotional triggers and develop emotional literacy to build a strong foundation for life strategies.
00:19:02
Continuous Learning: The Importance of Personal Development and Growth
Heck emphasizes the value of continuous learning and personal development. He discusses various resources for learning, including books and podcasts, and stresses the importance of celebrating achievements while maintaining a growth mindset.
00:25:32
Intentional Routines: Building Success Through Daily Habits and Choices
Heck explains how success is built through small, intentional daily choices and routines. He emphasizes the importance of aligning routines with personal values and maintaining a balance between work, family, and personal growth.
00:29:02
Storytelling Power: Connecting, Healing, and Growing Through Shared Experiences
Heck discusses the power of storytelling in personal growth, healing, and connecting with others. He emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and authenticity in sharing one’s experiences to help others relate and grow.
Full Unedited Transcript:
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Welcome back to Give A Heck the podcast where we stop living by accident and start living on purpose. I’m your host, Dwight Heck, and today we’re diving into what it really means to live intentionally across your finances and health, your mindset and your relationships. I’m not just talking theory. I’ve lived it as long as I’ve been a person that’s raised children on my own as a single dad, to living in quiet desperation, to going through divorce, to going through rebuilding your life through the loss of a close family member. Just everything. I’ve gone through it so I can relate. So this podcast is a solo podcast. I’ve got a bunch of notes down here for those that are going to watch on YouTube. You will see me looking down and reading some things and then I will add in as well things on top of that. I simply wanted to make sure this podcast was very impactful. Discussing the seven Pillars of Intentional Living how many of you would like to have some roadmap, some guide to help you feel hope for the first time, maybe in your life, or the first time since you’ve got married, first time since you started a new job, started a new business. You’ve had no real grounding in your life. You. And I’m here to hopefully give you some hope, right, that you can move forward, that you can climb, that you can elevate your life. So let’s start. Okay, so again, seven Pillars of Intentional Living. Segment one, or pillar one would be financial alignment. I used to live paycheck to paycheck thinking that if I just earned more, the stress would go away. Spoiler alert. It didn’t. What changed everything was learning how money actually works. The rules of the money game are so important for us all to understand. And you can’t rely on the school system. You can’t rely on your parents. You can’t rely on uncles, aunts, your friends and other people to teach you how to live an intentful, purposeful life. There’s so many people out there that can based on real world experiences that they’ve gone through, like myself. Search them out, get some coaching, get some mentorship, Find out what your path of life is, goal set. Figure it out. Do some financial things to make it so that you’re living within your needs, not living outside where all your wants are and crushed by debt. So at the end of the day, again, first one is financial alignment and building your clarity. I built Give a Hack Financial Give a Hector brand itself to help others to do the same. Align spending with your values As I mentioned, not just wants. Because when money reflects your mission, you stop surviving and start thriving. So the next pillar is mental mindfulness. Back when I was burning out in the IT world, the computer industry, I didn’t realize how much mental clutter. Part of me was sabotaging my decisions. I was reactive, not intentional. Today I journal, I reflect. I coach others to unpack their head trash. Mental clarity isn’t a luxury. It is a necessity. And it’s the foundation for every financial decision you’ll ever make. Let’s unpack a little bit about journaling. I don’t do the traditional journaling. I will tell you that right now. I will hear something from somebody else, from a podcast, from an audiobook, from a convention, or hanging around people. And I put myself a little note. I have things on my phone. I have the same application on my computer. You can use whatever I use OneNote. If I don’t have an opportunity to do that, I’ll just text myself. I’ll message myself so that thought doesn’t get lost. And then I can put it into my electronic notebook where I track my thoughts and ideas. I literally will be thinking about something and stop what I’m doing in the evening because I look at myself. What’s a priority? Do I want to work on this? And I’ll grab my laptop and I’ll start journaling my thoughts using AI, using Google, just to clarify that my thought process against other people having similar thoughts. Or it might direct me to some place where I can clarify my thoughts. To me, that’s journaling. I am putting stuff down. I am researching it and putting the effort in after the fact. Some people just journal saying this is what’s going on in the day and blah, blah, blah. There’s nothing wrong with that. I guess my form of journaling would be my gratefulness exercises, right? Get up in the morning, be grateful I’m alive. I welcome God into my day because I’m a Christian. I literally at night, reflect on having a great day, what happened, good, bad, and indifferent. How can I change? What went well, what what didn’t is important to process in your mindset. So I do journaling that way, right? Journaling is a defined definition for some, and for others it’s flexible. As long as it’s helping you move forward and you’re putting your thoughts down, you’re. If you’re not putting your thoughts down, you’re at least putting in the research for what you just had as a thought. Putting it down on paper doesn’t mean that journaling is effective for you. Are you taking action? Right. What’s your belief in your thought process of what you just wrote down, whether it’s not business related, it could be family, it could be like personal of any nature, it could be business related. What’s your belief? And are you consistently thinking the same thing? Are you consistently putting an action to complete it? Most people aren’t. My friend Tony Watley has really stuck the ABCs into my head since we met way back in 2019 and he became my friend, my mentor and action, belief, consistency, important. So you journal something and do you do anything or are you journaling the same thing the next day, two days, a week, a year later? Journaling can be great for reducing stress. And not forever. But for a moment, put some action in, figure out what you want, find the right people to help mentor you to take that first baby step in your mental mindfulness. So gratefulness and gratitude exercises definitely part of pillar two. Do I forget? Some days, yeah, I do. I’m too exhausted or I wake up in a rush and I don’t and I can feel it throughout the day. It hits me. Trust me, you start a positive habit like that, your body, your brain thrives on it. So we’ll continue on with that. If you have questions, obviously drop comments or DM me, reach out to me. Let’s chat. The third pillar would be physical investment. Let’s be real. If your body’s breaking down, your goals don’t matter. I learned that the hard way when my health forced me to pivot careers. Initially from the IT consulting world into finance. Now I treat movement, sleep and nutrition like assets. You don’t need to be a gym rat. You just need to respect the vessel that carries your purpose. Remember that. You need to respect the vessel that carries your purpose. And at the end of the day, I’ve gone through major health scares. I’ve gone through depressive things in my life, gained a lot of weight. It’s caused other health issues and it was a wake up call. It just happened again recently here where I had to, instead of just being, you know, giving myself and others lip service, I had to go back to treat my movement, my sleep, nutrition. Like assets, like they are, your health can’t be bought with enough money. If you have cancer, you can’t buy yourself health. You might be able to buy yourself other treatments, things that’ll slow it down or maybe put you into remission. But at the end of the day, look at Steve Jobs, billionaire, still died of cancer. He went all over the planet for specialized treatments and it couldn’t save his life. And how much of his life, how much of his life journey did he miss? Ask yourself that. Are you a person that’s thriving and striving to accumulate more and more money? Maybe you’re not one of those people that has to have financial alignment or mental mindfulness. You’ve got everything under control. I doubt it. You’ve missed the journey of life to succeed, to get money. Many people have. They can’t tell you stories of their children growing up. They can’t tell you if you ask them about their life. What happened in the last six months while you were achieving this goal that you just achieved today? Oh, while I was working, Blah blah, blah, blah, blah. There’s no joy, there’s no core values of giving back to themselves, to others, to family, if they have a family, the list goes on. So really, at the end of the day, respect the vessel that carries your purpose. The next pillar is number four, emotional literacy Auto. Emotions affect you. Do you realize that in most cases when you get upset, that wasn’t your first emotion? Anger is not, excuse me, a primary emotion. Anger is a secondary emotion. Usually we have sadness or something prior to it. Do you have emotional grounding? What is your emotional iq? Right. Emotions drive spending, they drive avoidance, they drive addiction. I’ve seen it in my clients, I’ve seen it in myself. That’s why I talk openly about emotional intelligence on Give a Heck and to all my clients, my friends, I talk about it because it is so important for us to understand our emotional iq. And how can we effectively control and live a purposeful life without our emotions always taking us on that roller coaster ride? Because really, if you don’t understand your emotional triggers, your financial strategy will always be fragile. Always. If you can’t understand needs and wants, if you can’t understand how to communicate with your significant other, if you’re in a couple to, you know, run a purposeful financial life, run a purposeful goal setting life of what you want to do for the next year, Obviously things can change. What are you going to do over the next five years? What does your retirement look like? Like, right? There’s so many different things we need to take care of in our lives, right? To live a purposeful life. And emotional literacy is definitely one of them. And it’s tied right to our emotional iq. Again, if you have questions, I look forward to comments. DM me, let’s reach out, we can have a conversation. I help people through all of these. I’ve been through all of these. I was still living through them. Sometimes they get sucked back in. I’m human. The difference is between most people and myself. I have the ability and the emotional IQ to bring myself back, to get regrounded, to start moving forward again. Is it immediate? Sometimes not. This last while it wasn’t. But I accepted it. I knew it was going on and I did baby steps. When I was in a pattern of struggle, of health issues this past year, I still did baby steps to move myself forward. And you can too. Don’t let those negative things in your life crush you and beat you down. The next pillar is continuous learning. I didn’t grow up with financial literacy, right? Very successful father and mom with a business. They did very, very well. Very, very, you know, caring parents. Parents that took care of us and give us the, the basics. Didn’t know my parents were wealthy or had money or did do well off whatever word you want to use, whatever $20 word you want to use. At the end of the day, my parents did well for themselves. However, they didn’t really have the ability to teach us. My mom, super compassionate, caring, you know, the person that was the protector of us at home for most of our lives. She was, you know, the template of emotional IQ for me. My dad, he affected it as well. Workaholic, worked a lot, gone. He was not a bad person. Still is not a bad person. He’s still alive. Thank the Lord. Both my mom and dad are. But at the end of the day he taught me little things, but nothing specific. He didn’t teach me how he was laying out his roadmap, how he created his business from a few dollars in his pocket to being the business it was before he retired. And at the end of the day really we need to understand that it’s not our parents responsibility to make sure we succeed even if they did teach us properly or didn’t teach us properly. We need to go out and search for continuous learning. So I had to learn it. And I still do. I read, I listen to Audible. That’s my favorite thing, right? So I have books I lead to. Right now I’m listening to Relentless. Love it. Re. Listen to your books, right? The favorite ones. Or if you’ve had that book you’ve never read or listened to, do it. Just do a few pages at a time. If you’re listening to it, just listen for 10 minutes a day. Something to feed your mind. Your mind is a giant computer. It doesn’t know the difference between a truth and a lie. And it’s up to you to give it truthful information based on what your truth is. And if your truth is too scattered again, have a mentor, have a coach, have somebody teach you how, how to focus on really what you want. Get rid of that clutter between your ears. What’s the timeframe? I don’t know. Everybody’s different. Just like your fingerprint. But start, that would be my message to start. So, you know, I also interview on this podcast, lots of thought leaders, right? Lots of people that are doing great things, that are about their lives. And it’s, you know, at a 250 episodes, this is now the 251st, first episode I have had everybody on. I’ve maybe had, out of 250 episodes, eight to 10 things about finance. The rest is all. Here’s what you need to do to level up your life. Here’s what you need to do to deal with your narcissistic relationships around you. Here’s what you need to do if you’re an empath. Here’s what, here’s what is going on in the AI world. Here’s what’s going on if you get the message. I’ve interviewed so many great thought leaders in all aspects of life, from health to finance to, you know, responsible living. The list goes on. So basically, it’s important. Personal development is important. If you own a business, you should be helping your team, your group do personal development. You should be encouraging it and you should be taking action to show what it does by being a great person to them and being uplifting to those around you. Again, whether you’re at a job you own, own a business, you have staff, you have clients, whatever, be a good person, prove you’re a good person and elevate others to do the same as best you can because everybody’s in a different spot. So you also need to learn that too. When you educate and teach other about personal finance, you need to know what to say, what not to say, and how impactful what you’re saying needs to be said. You want to help people flourish and grow, not shrink, right? So at the end of the day, I interview thought leaders again. Like I said, I shared stories about my own life. They share stories that helps people understand, relate, and can be more impactful that way. Because learning really is the bridge between where you are and where you want to be. Did you get that? Learning is a bridge between where you are and where you want to be. If you’re not growing, you’re coasting in life. I call it the camp effect. Are you camped at that plateau? Are you climbing? You can see or you maybe you can’t see, but you have imagined. Your imagination tells you that higher up is where you need to be. That’s where you. You’re going to feel more competent, you’re going to have more intent, more purposeful life. Are you camped? How many years have you been camped? Are you stuck on that hamster wheel life? Are you going to work, go home, get paid? Right? You can break that chain, you can continue to move forward, but personal development is so important. Right? Again, coasting sucks. You want to be a climber, you want to be somebody that’s not on a plateau, you know, camped. You want to be that person that’s climbing. You only camp when you need a break or you’re celebrating a win and then you move forward again. You know, I’m going to add into it because, yes, this is pillar five, continuous learning, but are you celebrating the journey of your life? I can understand people that win one day and right away the next day they’re going on to the next journey of their life. They don’t have any, you know, I shouldn’t say journey. The next goal of their life, they didn’t really celebrate with their family. You know, hey, family, you sacrificed all this time with me being gone, you know, again, this is for women and men, sometimes both. We’re going to celebrate for the next week because you helped, you supported, you understood when I couldn’t be here. So we’re going to go on a holiday. So we’re going to go do something special, go to the movies, we’re going to go hang out. We’re going to do this and do that, and we’re going to celebrate the fact that this has happened, that I’ve accomplished this. And, you know, sometimes that happens in the journey to get your goal, the family suffers. And is that a good thing? Obviously not. But sometimes it’s. It’s a reality. It has to happen. But if you’re not, if you’re sacrificing family, are you enjoying the journey of the work that you’re putting in to get to your goal? Are you enjoying it enough that it’s worth the sacrifice of your family? Ask yourself those questions. Is it worth my sacrifice? And most people will tell you, you know, when they really deep down think about it, if they have their emotional IQ in check too, it certainly helps. We’ll say, you know, it’s worth it once in a while, but not all the time. And during the journey, I could Take time off. The six months, nine months, year, five years. Sometimes I can take time off while I’m on this journey. To hit this goal, I need to find personal time for myself, for my family, so I can continue to grow and elevate and not look back and go, gosh, I achieved this. But I missed the journey of life. I missed all the things that could have been great in my life. I really didn’t enjoy the work I was doing. I sacrificed my family to get this. But it’s empty and hollow, right? Many people might not admit that. I’m telling you from experience. 22 years of dealing with businesses and clients, personal clients, and including my own life, family, friends, right? At the end of the day, don’t miss the journey of life. Work on it. Get somebody to help you. You want recommendations for good books. You know, there are so many of them out there. You know, Napoleon Hill has good books. You can get Dale Carnegie’s, you know, how to Win Friends and Influence People. It’s the first, you know, really personal development book I’d recommend to anybody. And then you’ve got Seven Habits by highly effective people. Right? Covey is fantastic. There’s so many good authors out there, right? Tim Grover, relentless. Great book. There’s just so many of them out there that you need to check things out if you want some encouragement or just help with the decision which book you should start with again. I would start with how to Win Friends and Influence People, but maybe you’re advanced beyond that. So reach out to me. Let’s have a conversation, and I can give you some recommendations. The sixth pillar. Intentional routines. Right? Success isn’t built in big moments. It really isn’t. It’s built in small choices that you make every single day. Back to what we talked about in regards to nutrition, sleep and, you know, doing movement, exercise. Are you staying active? Different things like that. It’s all built on small choices and decisions. To spend time with your family, to intentionally have that day every week that you know, there’s no way that you’re gonna give up that for anybody. That is family day. Maybe that’s date night with your significant other, right? Who knows what it is? But you need to be taking small choices and being intentional in your routines. What am I eating? Am I gonna eat this? And then later on I’m gonna eat this. Later on I’m gonna eat this. I’m not gonna drink coffee at a certain time. I’m not gonna boredom, eat, depress a beat. I’m gonna realize that’s a Challenge. I’m gonna go pick up and listen to a podcast. Maybe watch a good show that you like that makes you think differently. Maybe you jump on the treadmill, maybe you go for a run, maybe you go for a walk. Maybe you’re a person that has a scooter. My son and I just got scooters this past week just to get out, just to hang out, just to go farther than you could. Walking, to explore, to go down in our beautiful river valley in my home city of edm. Beautiful, right? One of the largest interconnected park systems in the world is ten times larger than Central Park. For those listening, I love our country. I love my city. Right? So you can go out and do things, hang out, be intentional about your routines on both your work and your family. For me, my it’s core values that keep me grounded. Most of the time it’s faith, family, work. Those are my three core values. And of course there’s things within that connect within those three core values. But it’s always about being intentional. Living an intentional life involves having intentional routines. It doesn’t make you boring, it makes you feel better because you have that roadmap you’re following. You know what to expect from yourself and others and obviously you pivot when you need to. But please, please look at your routines and what you’re doing. They’re a big reason why you are where you are, whether it’s extremely successful and you feel hollow, tied to your routines. You never celebrated, you never enjoyed the journey. Somebody that’s poor and broke and stressed out and quite desperation, laying in bed, which I was many, many times over, raising my five kids as a single dad, that is a challenge. You need to understand it. And then what are you doing to pull yourself out of that? What routines do you have? Has anybody ever taught you anything? Have they ever talked to you about it? That’s what I do. I can coach anybody around the planet about their life skills based on reality of mine and 22 years experience dealing with clients doesn’t have to be about money. It doesn’t have to be about selling your product or service, which I can’t do outside of two provinces in Canada. But I can do all the planning aspect of it. I can help you with the six inches between your ears. I can help you with your heart centered life, your emotional iq. I can help you based on experience. I can be your guide. I can be that mentor for you. It doesn’t matter where you are, I can help you through that, right? Right up to the point of if it’s financial based, I can still help you goal set for that portion. I can help you budget. And then wherever you live, you can utilize the local, local products and services to help you implement the things that could help you for a purposeful retirement and estate planning. So there’s so many choices, right, that I can help you with. If you’re not comfortable with me, look for somebody like me in the sense of what they do. Get some help. Don’t sit any longer. Get up, take that baby step. Intentional routines. Intentional life takes work, purposeful work. So again, I talked about this. I always structure my days about what matters, right? My family, service, health, legacy. I teach clients to do the same. Because when your routine reflects your values, your core values, your life starts to feel like it’s yours again. The last pillar of the seven is storytelling power. This podcast isn’t just a mic, it’s a mirror. I share my story so you can see your own. From being a bully kid with scoliosis to becoming a financial coach, author and speaker, I’ve learned that vulnerability is strength and storytelling is how we heal, connect and grow. Do you know how to tell a good story? Have you ever had somebody say to you, wow, you’re a great storyteller, or to lean into you or people gather around you when you’re telling a story or an audience? Let’s say you’re somebody that’s on stage, that quiets down and you could hear a pin drop. Because your storytelling ability, your ability to emote and share with others is so powerful, it stops them in their tracks and they want to watch, they want to listen, they want to connect with you. And that is so powerful. So many people aren’t great at telling stories. I have a couple close friends, that’s their businesses, they teach people how to be good storytellers. I have friends that are coaches that teach people how to be, you know, good speakers give them the ability to practice. I can tell you to a lot of different people’s that can help you through this journey of, of being a good storyteller, right at the end of the day, I learned through storytelling how to release, how to share with people and connect because people want to know that you care, that you can understand what they’re going through. And everybody’s lives are unique, just like their fingerprint. You know, we all have different varying lives and things that, that slow us down, things that help us move forward. But I’ve learned that the more vulnerable I am with people and honest and real, I attract those same People to me as friends, clients, right? It just, it works because we can relate to one another. Because I’m not saying, oh, I’m perfect, oh, you know, I can’t believe this. I’m not judging people. I have control of my emotional iq. I have control of my facial expressions, my tonality. Because I never want to do something that will make somebody feel less than they are, to feel uncomfortable. And storytelling is so powerful for that because it helps people relate. And one of the things I do on this podcast is a person’s origin story. That is a story. And if their origin is dealt and presented right and I ask good questions around it, it helps you relate to them, it helps you connect to them and thus anything that comes out of their mouth after the fact during that podcast interview, or spin this away from just a personal conversation with a group of people. It helps you grow, it helps you elevate your life by them having a good story, right? By them being able to connect with you and you do the same. So learn some storytelling. It’s not difficult. It’s just about sharing. It’s about letting it go. It’s about your heart centered life, your six inches between your ears, and your ability to just be real with people. People just want real nowadays. Not the phony guru garbage that we have on the Internet, that we have from people that surround us, that present themselves as a. And they’re a giant facade. They look wealthy, they look well off. You open up doors of their life and you look in and wow, you’d be shocked how many people in my life that have that I’ve thought were really well off and found out they weren’t because of that facade. If you know the signs, you can look past that facade and know that people are hurting and full of it. But I hope this has helped you. I guess again, just to finish off storytelling, this one little statement. Storytelling is how we heal, connect and grow. Never forget that. So in closing, you know, I always do this on my podcast. If I was going to give you one last closing message, what would I say to you so that you can give a heck about yourself? Look in the mirror. Do you love yourself when you look at yourself, Are you happy? Can you even look at yourself in the mirror? Some people can’t even brush their teeth and look up themselves in the mirror. They don’t like what they see. I’ve been there. There’s exercises, there’s things you can do. Again, as mentioned, to move yourself forward, to have personal development, to start loving who you are and not feeling the way you are based on the opinions of others throughout your whole life to learn behaviors from when you were a child to where you are today. So just love yourself. Get to a point where you can look at yourself in the mirror and that you put yourself up on a pedestal before everybody else around you. Because if you don’t, you can never grow and change and really effectively help anybody. If you can’t help yourself, first, love yourself and start moving forward. And no, it’s not selfish behavior. I’m tired of that, too. You’re not being selfish when you take care of yourself, when you protect yourself, when you have boundaries, when you have goals and values that you want to work on, that you want to enforce. There’s outside noise trying to beat you down, telling you you shouldn’t do it, or when’s enough enough, they’re not part of your tribe. It’s time to move on. If you can have a conversation and they understand, great. But most people that bring that stuff up, you can’t change their mind. A person convinced against their will is of the same opinion still. I’ll say that again. A person convinced against their will is of the same opinion still. Doesn’t matter where you live on the planet, that holds true. So again, work on you, like what you see, give yourself credit, give yourself some slack when things are tough, and love yourself. And there’s so many ways that you can do that in regards to personal development and stuff. So get a hold of me. Let’s chat. DM me, drop comments. Go check out my other podcast. Check out my website, give a heck dot com, where you’ll see detailed show notes of this episode, of all the episodes, and you’ll see so much information that might help you literally elevate your life. Right? Remember, my goal is helping people live life on purpose and not by accident. Thanks so much for being on Give a Heck today. Please share this with others, you know, and. And comment and you know, like the podcast. Subscribe to it on your favorite platform that you’re on right now. If you’re on YouTube, subscribe to it. Like, put a comment in, just say, this is a great show. Thanks so much. But sharing it with others helps because it can help them. But it also helps this message get out the algorithms see that it’s being liked, that it’s being shared with others and it’s getting more views. Thus it gets more traction to help more people. I’d really appreciate that if you could do that. So in closing, if you’re tired of living on autopilot. I invite you to pause, reflect, and start giving a heck about your life. Because true wealth isn’t just wallet deep, it’s whole self deep. I’ll say that again. Because true wealth isn’t just wallet deep, it’s whole self deep. Thanks for tuning in. Until next time. Living on purpose and not by accident takes effort. And all I want you to do is realize that no matter what, it’s never too late to give a heck.