🚀 Peter Mather’s Journey from Rock Bottom & Addiction to Purpose, Resilience, and Skydiving Success
🎙️ Podcast Bio and Summary
What does it take to rise from rock bottom and soar — literally — to new heights?
In this gripping episode of Give A Heck, host Dwight Heck welcomes Peter Mather, a man whose life reads like a cinematic comeback story. After 18 years of addiction, two suicide attempts, and a near-fatal heart attack, Peter didn’t just survive. He transformed. Today, he is a thriving entrepreneur, skydiving champion, certified life coach, and a beacon of hope for anyone facing adversity.
Peter shares how a pivotal moment in Portugal ignited his journey of recovery, purpose, and personal power. From launching a skydiving business days before the COVID-19 shutdown to crewing fire-walks at Tony Robbins events, Peter’s story is packed with grit, grace, and gratitude.
Whether you are navigating your own challenges or seeking inspiration to chase bold dreams, this episode delivers raw truth, real tools, and radical encouragement.
👤 Guest Bio – Peter Mather
Peter Mather is a transformational entrepreneur, certified life coach, and competitive skydiver whose journey from addiction to altitude is nothing short of extraordinary. After battling drug and alcohol addiction for 18 years, including surviving two suicide attempts and a near-fatal heart attack, Peter emerged with a renewed sense of purpose and a mission to inspire others.
He owns multiple businesses across skydiving, fireworks, and coaching. In 2020, he boldly purchased a skydiving center just days before the COVID-19 shutdown. Through grit and strategic vision, he turned it into a thriving operation.
Peter has represented Team GB in skydiving four times and is a passionate participant in Tony Robbins events, where he has crewed fire-walks and contributed to Date with Destiny. He is currently working toward becoming a senior leader within the Robbins community.
With a heart for service and a drive for excellence, Peter is now focused on sharing his story with the world and pursuing his next big goal: becoming a professional golfer at age 50. His life is a testament to resilience, reinvention, and the power of living with intention.
⏱️ Timestamps and Highlights
00:00 Meet Peter Mather: From addiction to altitude
09:45 The near-death moment that changed everything
18:20 Building a skydiving business from scratch
32:10 Gratitude as a daily practice
45:55 Coaching others through trauma and transformation
1:02:40 Living with purpose and spiritual alignment
🎯 What You’ll Learn
- How addiction and recovery shaped Peter’s mission to serve
• The mindset shift that turned a failing business into a thriving venture
• What skydiving teaches about fear, focus, and freedom
• The impact of Tony Robbin’s events on personal transformation
• Why it’s never too late to reinvent yourself, even at 50
• How gratitude and affirmations can rewire your reality
💬 Notable Quotes
“If you don’t pursue the calling on your heart, to me it’s a disobedience to who you’re created to be.” — Peter Mather
“God’s never going to stop acknowledging me unless I stop acknowledging Him. And even then, He’s still acknowledging me. I’m just not listening.” — Dwight Heck
🔗 Connect with Peter Mather
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🎙️ Full Unedited Transcript
[00:00:03 – 00:01:23]Good day and welcome to Give a Heck. Imagine losing nearly two decades to addiction, then almost losing your life. When Covid hit, Peter made a decision. The old life was done. He took a failing drop zone and turned it into sky high. Skydiving, double jumps, creating jobs and proving that risk can be the first step toward recovery. He lit up communities with his firework companies, all sorts in PJM Fireworks, designing safe, spectacular shows that have become a highlight of Northern England’s Bonfire Night. Now, as a certified life coach, Peter channels the grit and resilience of his own comeback into practical strategies that help others break destructive habits and go after bold goals. After 18 years of substance abuse and a near fatal heart attack, Peter, his message is simple and powerful. Adversity isn’t the end. It can be the launch pad for something extraordinary. He’s proof you never too far gone to rise higher than ever before. Whether in business, in life, or in those quiet moments when you think the fight is over. It’s not. Peter, welcome to the Give a Heck podcast.
[00:02:50 – 00:06:53]That’s a great question, by the way. And I think the first one of the first memories that I had of my childhood now is being in my mother’s arms in, in the hospital and then my dad being there. That was the first ever memory that I could, I went back to and I can go back to and the moments that I kind of, if I look back really on my whole childhood until like the ages of, let’s just say 12, 13, maybe up to the age of 16 is a very broken, broken family, you know, very broken family. Like my dad left us when we were. Well, sorry, let me rephrase that. I apologize. My mum left my dad when we were, when I was 2. I moved in with my auntie and at the time her partner, which was I called my uncle. It was, they were kind of like not blood family but you know them type of friends that have been your life for, since you were born and you just call them auntie and uncle. And I went through a, her, my auntie losing my uncle to a accident from a roof, but he fell off a roof. And then from there it was very much, it was very much a me and my mom was very much a unity of just me and my mom. My dad, I love my dad to bits, you know, I really do. I, I, I, I owe him a lot for what he, for what he has taught me over the years. And from not giving me things, you know, you mentioned silver spoon. My dad was an extremely wealthy human being. My dad was very, very, very intelligent when it came to business. You know, my mom was a beautiful soul human being as well. And I mean they’re still with me to this day, which is awesome. And if I was to look at it all, I would say that the person’s love I crave the most and it’s funny because I was talking to somebody about this yesterday is my dad’s. And from craving that love I learned how to be a businessman. I learned how to be durable, I learned how to be resilient. I learned how to be the kind of, I’m going to call this the rottweiler dog that doesn’t stop going until he gets exactly what he wants like go, go, go, go, go. You know. And from that I then developed this gift from all them experiences of my childhood and so on and so on and my even into my adult life on being able to find solutions for stuff and just being very solution focused instead of problem driven. And if I look at it from my mom’s love, I mean I got my mom’s love permanently. Like still to this day I get my mom’s love permanently, you know. And I know that now. And I got my mom’s heart, I got my mom’s beautiful heart to be able to give and I got my mom’s beautiful heart to be able to see the good in people. And from that then that drove me to a very different place. And I say that now because I understand it. If I was to go back and say what was the 18 years of substance abuse and the whole not understanding who I was in them periods of time, one of the big things I would say is that I didn’t have a male influence in my life. So I became in a very feminine energy, if this makes sense, you know, and it became very much about me and my mom. So I didn’t get some of the tools that I wish I had had as a. As a child from having an adult figure that was a male figure around me a lot. You know, my mum did an amazing job. I, like I said, I implicitly love my mum and dad to bits. You know, they both give me beautiful things that I utilize to this day. And because of that, I then have the opportunity, like you said before, to life coach people and change people and serve people. Now because of that, I hope that kind of give you a broad origin of me.
[00:06:53 – 00:08:46]Oh yeah. It’s a lot of similarities that you and I have. I grew up in a small community of only like 10, 10,000 people at the time. And my father, very, very successful businessman, but very much a workaholic. So unless I was going to work with him at his. At his business, with his staff, I didn’t see him a lot because he was so I very much. My mom was the nurturer as well. Right. Still is. They’re both alive. They’re in their 80s, but my. Thank you, but. And same to you. And my mom, yeah, was very much my closest confidant. I had a lot of feminine energy growing up as well, in the sense that I was very. I was more sensitive than potentially if I. You’d have that yin and yang I wrote down here of having a mom and dad. They’re consistently there. And I’m not saying those that haven’t had it, you’re. That your life’s broken or you were broken growing up. Because I raised my kids as a single dad with five kids full time. Right. Adam, Joint. And then I ended up getting them full time. Right. Four of the five kids the oldest had taken took off, but I got the other four kids and. And I raised them right into their adulthood years. So thank goodness I had some. God does things for us. Right. Not to us. And when I look at my. What the nurturing my mom gave me, it helped me raise those five kids, four of them daughters. Right. So I get you talking about having a, you know, that dad figure. My dad taught me lots. I learned. I didn’t realize, like, you probably are the same. You hit adulthood and you start getting old and you think people will say something to you or compliment you. And then if you really think about it. Oh, I learned that from my dad.
[00:08:47 – 00:08:47]Yeah.
[00:08:47 – 00:09:24]Or, you know, maybe it’s. Maybe it’s a compassionate thing. Oh, I learned that from my mom. Oh, yeah. I do this. I do this now. And it’s nothing like my parents because we need to sometimes grow outside of our parents. Right. Become our most unique selves. So, you know, I. I really like that, though you talked about the fact of, you know, moving in with your auntie, which is a friend of the family, and. And some if the reason I bring that up is family isn’t always blood. They can be somebody you choose to be family. And they’re stronger than blood, in fact, I mean, that’s.
[00:09:24 – 00:11:23]We have a very. Our family is very small for me anyway, you know, it was kind of like growing up, my. Let’s. Let’s say blood family was my. My mom. My. My mom has three. Two sisters and one One brother. And my uncle was the person I spent a lot of time with. You know, I spent a lot of time with my other. My other aunties. And then we had an extended kind of family from that, you know, which was not outside of not. Was not blood. It was kind of chosen family from my mom as well, you know, and then from my dad’s side, I just had my dad and my auntie and uncle again. My dad was a twin. My dad is a twin. Well, he’s a twin. God rest my auntie’s soul. Right now, unfortunately, she’s not with us no more. You know, and again, that was very small. So I came from a very, very small family orientation realistically, that kind of had. I have aunties that are not aunties. You know, they’re all kind of like, they’re not blood aunties. And now when you get into adult life, it’s mad because someone say, oh, is that your mom’s sister? Like, well, no, it’s my mom’s best friend that for. Since the age of, like, one year old, I’ve called her my Auntie Margaret or my Auntie Susan or, you know, stuff like that. So, yeah, I get it. And now what I love is in my adult life, I get to pick my own family. I get to pick my family. And that’s. And that’s the beautiful thing. And I love that we family is blood and it’s great to be with them. And it’s. And I love my family, don’t get me wrong, I actually bring my mum and my dad into my chosen family. There’s a lot of blood relations that I don’t have in my chosen family. And my mum and dad are one of them, that they are in my chosen family, you know, and that was my choice, that was my decision. And my chosen family is actually not that big either. It’s pretty small.
[00:11:25 – 00:13:57]I hear what you’re saying. At the end of the day, we can bring people into our chosen family that are blood family, but a lot of times we grow apart, right? We’re on different trajectories. And people in my family, we just had a family reunion this last weekend. And on the one side of their family, my mom’s one of nine kids, my dad’s one of 18, so they’re big families. And when we have reunions, there’s lots of people there. But, you know, there, there was cousins there this weekend, right? I have, between the two families, I have more than 100 cousins, right? So at the end of the day, at the end of the day, not even 1% of them are really in my chosen family. So I seen people there that I was glad to see, I hadn’t seen. And, you know, maybe the last time I seen him was a funeral or, you know, years ago, maybe a wedding. And then all of a sudden, oh, how are you doing? It’s. And it was nice to see, see them, but really, when you, when you look at that sort of stuff, it’s polite conversation, isn’t it? You’re not really looking at digging in deep with a cousin or, or an aunt or uncle you haven’t seen in 10 years. And if you are getting it into a deep, it’s either because you have a weakness inside of your heart and you’re, you’re trying to make them look, look what I’ve done, look how great I am, blah, blah, blah, or you’re, oh, my life sucks, one more person to feed the pity party, right? So at the end of the day, you know, I, I get the fact of, of selectively. And when I think about it, and if any of my relatives are listening, I apologize for that. But there’s people there that was nice to see, but I might never ever see them. Again, and they’re not. And just based on the short conversation, if they had made it into my chosen family, they’re still not part of my chosen family. They’re an acquaintance that I can call a blood relative that I loved when I was a kid. We played lots together. We have a, you know, shared a few stories, but it’s all polite conversation. And if the reunion never happened, my life would still proceed forward with my chosen family. Right. And with my filter on to find other people to be that are like minded and want to be in my tribe and I want to be in theirs. And so it’s all good, right? It’s, it’s okay to have that. One of the things I wanted to ask you was, before we move on from origin, was there any defining early moments, good or hard, that still echo in how you lead and serve others?
[00:14:02 – 00:17:07]Well, that’s a, that’s a. I think. Okay, that’s a great question. You. I love these. I’m so glad you’ve done your research. I love the questions, by the way. There isn’t one defining moment that I look back up in my childhood and my origin that made me be the leader I am right now. You know, 100%. I learned how to not be a leader, an amazing leader. I learned how to not be an amazing partner. And I can see your facial expressions of, oh, okay. And the reason I say I learned how to not be a successful leader and a successful partner and a successful person in some aspects is now I am. So when I look back, I go, oh, that’s when I made the mistake. Okay, cool. What have I learned from that mistake now? And over periods, over a period of time, I’ve learned to look back on my childhood and go, wow, there’s so many defining moments. There’s so many stories that relate to the, to who I am now and why I say that, Dwight, is this. I said this to someone on Sunday. I was with a friend of mine. I’ve known this guy for a long time. And I said, you know, I have to say something to you, Andy. And if Andy’s listening at some point, well, you know, hi, Andy. I said, there hasn’t been a day in the last two and a half years where I haven’t been the most joyful human being possible. Like, there hasn’t been a day that I’ve been grateful to be on this planet. There hasn’t been a day that I haven’t actually had an amazing day. Even when things have not gone the way that I wanted them to. Go. Or I believe that they could have been better or something came up, an issue or something like that. There hasn’t been a day that I haven’t gone to bed and gone, holy moly. Like, what a day to be alive. What a day to be living. And I put all that down to the amount of personal development that I’ve done now. And I look back on all the defining moments. So there was never one single defining moment in my life. There was one moment in time that I decided to make a decision to change for sure. For sure, 100%. And I can tell you exactly when that defining moment was. And we’ll probably. You’ll probably bring it up. You know, as for an individual section that says that defining moments in my childhood, then to be brutally honest, it all came. And I’ll say this. God in the universe, give me a lot of lessons along the way so that when I got to the age of 36, I could use all them lessons and all them tools to develop this human being that I am becoming.
[00:17:09 – 00:17:41]That makes sense. At the end of the day though, having that one defining moment which we can discuss no problem. And where it was your launching point and you said there wasn’t any one defining moment. So they’re stepping stones, I get that. To the next defining moment. But that first moment where you decided you wanted to change, that is a defining moment. It’s. It may not. You may have a bunch of the things that changed your life, but there is always a switch. There’s always a switch moment. Right.
[00:17:42 – 00:17:50]And that was. And maybe I listened to. Maybe I heard the question wrong because I believed that you were asking the question about my childhood.
[00:17:50 – 00:17:57]Yeah, about your origin. Not necessarily your just your origin could have been teenage years. Could have been adulthood.
[00:17:57 – 00:19:20]Yes. So. So the one defining moment was when I attempted suicide. You know, and I realized that at that moment. So I. So yes, the complete defining moment that I decided to change and decided that that was the moment that everything was going to change. I didn’t want this life that I was leading to continue was when I was in Portugal. I had got flown over to. Drove over to Portugal to save my relationship. I had on the way this decided that I was going to quit drugs, already quit an alcohol and I was going to start to rebuild my life and hopefully save a relationship that I was going for. And I was going to save a relationship more than anything else. That was. That’s what I was going for. And at the moment when I thought it was going on the right path, the amazing Human being decided that she didn’t want to be with me no more. Which I now understand is cool because it was a huge lesson. And at that moment, my whole world came crashing down. And you know, Dwight, have you ever had a moment in time in your life where you believe that that’s it, like every, like everything just crumbles and everything just kind of defines. And if, you know, have you ever had a moment like that?
[00:19:20 – 00:19:28]Of course. I think we all have, we have character building moments where we go into the valley of despair and we’ll do that numerous times throughout our lives.
[00:19:29 – 00:22:05]And this one was the one where I just didn’t want to live no more. And I remember sitting in the car and I’d listened to the book on the drive for the 28 hour drive down to Portugal. I listened to the book the Secret and I started to do affirmations about dying and saying, okay, it is my time to die. There is nothing to work. There is nothing worth living for. There is nothing worth living for. And then I decided that I would visualize myself driving off the cliff in the car. Because I decided that if I was going to do it, I was going to do it in a good style and I was going to take the car with me and everything else like that. So as I was sat there, I drove all the way around and as I got onto the grass to go for the actual cliff, I had a phone call that came through. And you know when you have the red button and the green button where you can make a decision whether you pick up the call or you deny the call. And for some reason I pressed the green button and it was just my business partner Dwight. And all he said was, hello, big man, how you doing? And that was it. That interrupted the pattern that broke everything down. And that saved my life. That one phone call saved my life. And you know, if there is anybody and if the listeners out there are thinking about making that phone call and you’ve got a burning desire in your soul that is saying, make that phone call to someone. Please make that phone call. Because there was no reason for my business partner Michael to ring me. He just wanted to see how I was. And at that defining moment, then I realized that I actually was loved. Because I didn’t believe I was loved. I didn’t believe that anyone loved me. I didn’t believe that because I just had a relationship that had collapsed. I believed that I had zero self love. I had zero love for myself and no one else in the world actually loved me. And that One individual phone call, just that one phone call that all he did was say, are you doing big man? And all I did was cry for the next five minutes. And then he said something so funny. He said something so cool. He said. He said, hey, don’t worry about it. You own a skydiving center, and you’re a amazing skydiver. The chicks will just start coming to you, so don’t worry about.
[00:22:09 – 00:22:13]He made it. He made light of it. He took some of the pressure off, right?
[00:22:13 – 00:23:39]Yeah, he just. He just. Without even knowing it. And dwight, for. For 13 months, the guy didn’t even know that he saved my life. I didn’t tell him. I only told him. I only told him when BBC asked me to do a documentary about how I said how I changed my life in 18 months from being a substance abuse addict. And then I had to tell him. So. The defining moment of my life was understanding that people do love you. And there is. You are not alone. There is people out there that actually do care for you. And that chosen family that we talked about is so important because he was part of my chosen family, and I was part of his chosen family. And because of that reason, I am still here today. And that was a beautiful gift. The breakup was a beautiful gift from the lady. The phone call was a beautiful gift. And whether you say it was an act of God or whether it was an act of the universe, my time wasn’t up. My time wasn’t up. And I strongly believe that. I strong believe that if I was not meant to be here for a higher purpose, which now I know what the higher purpose is, to serve and, you know, inspire more people to live and save and change and move forward and grow, then I would not. I would have just kept going off the cliff.
[00:23:40 – 00:24:48]Yeah, it’s. It. You know, like, you talk about the universe, we talk about God and how this stuff comes to us. You know, we can overanalyze it and just realize that we have a place in this world. We have a purpose. Right? It’s. It’s up to us to. If we, you know, like my mission statement, my subtitle, my book is how to win. Live life on purpose, not by accident, but we need a. We need a tribe. We need the people like you had where your partner called you. You need. You need things to order, to understand. But really, at the end of the day, maybe you had a little prayer, maybe you said something in your mindset or, you know, like, why. What do most people do? Why me? Right? Maybe. Maybe God listened And said, oh, why you? Well, okay. Business partner. Bing. There’s a thought. Call. Call Peter up. Right? We don’t know. It could be. We could sit here and strategize a million different ways of why it happened. All that matters is that it happened. And now you’ve exactly shifted your trajectory and your life’s moving forward.
[00:24:50 – 00:26:09]Yeah, I know. And you know, you, you said it a few times, but, you know, life is happening for us, not to us. 100. Everything that happens in our lives and the amount of things that I’ve got story wise and things that, you know, I, I asked. Someone asked me the question the other day, he said, is there ever a time that you think, wow, I shouldn’t be alive? And I’m like, like so many times have I thought that. So many times I’ve thought, you know, I shouldn’t be alive. With the amount of drugs and alcohol that I put into my body over 18 years, you know, with different tablets and substances that were pumped into my body. This thing that we have, which we call a body is for me is the most amazing thing because it goes through so much diversity and so much different pain that it’s absolutely insane to realize what we have right now, who we are and what we have inside of us. And you know, Tony says, you know, no problem is permanent, only your soul is permanent. And I solely believe that. I solely believe that. So it’s so a true statement that Tony Robbins says, you know, it’s, it’s an awesome one because our soul is the only permanent thing that we’ve got.
[00:26:11 – 00:27:02]Oh, absolutely. Well, for those that don’t believe in, in the soul or believe in afterlife or whatever the case may be, that’s. That’s fine. This is what, this is what Peter and I believe, and Tony obviously. But you know, we can go to all this and talk about all these people that help us and have helped us and they’ve got specific phrases or books, but at the end of the day, you were the willing and that’s why you got where you are. God brought people to you. And you, you know, it’s just like you look at, you look at that, that old story where they talk about the person’s gonna drown, right? And literally climbs the top of a building and still, you know, I sent you boat, I sent you all this stuff and you’re at the pearly gates complaining to me. What else did you want me to do?
[00:27:06 – 00:27:06]Story.
[00:27:06 – 00:28:37]It’s a great story, right? So at the end of the day though, you have to be willing to listen and move forward. And sometimes we’re going to trip and fall and have a baby step and then maybe a couple steps back, maybe you move forward. Our tribe is so important for all that to happen. And your tribe can be books, it can be a conference, it can be a Tony, Tony Robbins conference. The list goes on, right? It all depends what we, what we bring into our mindset too. Not just the visualization of having a group of like minded people. Do you actually have a group of like minded people that communicate and support and help uplift, right. And get you out of that valley of despair. That’s what’s important for all of us to have. We. I want to talk about more about your purpose and your identity. So you’ve been candid about addiction, you know, the collapse and things, you know, some of it not, not totally in detail, which it doesn’t need to be. And the long road back to where you are today is, has been intense, right? Going to Portugal and going through some of the things that you, you’ve gone through. What shifted the day you decided your future wasn’t going to be the mirror of the past. What was a major shift? I’m not talking about the defining point of where you decided to move forward. What was the shift? What actually happened, right? Decided that you were gonna, you didn’t work in a mirror. Your, your former self, you’re going to be this new person and what you’re doing today.
[00:28:38 – 00:30:53]The. The statement I used was this. And it was a statement that came to me. I was in Portugal. I never forget it. I was sat at the end of the bed. I just listened to the Beginner’s Guide to Stoicism. There was another book that I’d listened to. I’d never listened to any books until this point. And it was books that got me kind of started on the role of personal development. Right? And the one defined, the one, not the one statement I said to me myself was this is the next person that gets me, is going to get the best version of me. And then what I really meant by that originally was the next girlfriend that got me was going to get the best version of me. What I now know is what with that statement is that the, the statement means the next person, I yourself, Dwight, is going to get the best version of me right now. This is the best version of me at this moment in 2025. And if we was to speak tomorrow, you would get the better version of me than was yesterday or today. And that statement stays with me. And it’s One of my, you know, statements I use a lot to myself on a daily basis, like, how can I be the best version of myself? You know, And I think that was the one thing that kind of defined me, and I keep using the word defined. That was the one thing that got me to create. Create momentum in this personal development, in this real, true kind of who I really want to be and the best version of me. And then that momentum continued and created. And then I’ve just been learning and learning and learning. And for the last nearly five years, all I’ve done is learn, learn and grow, learn and grow and then implement, you know, learn, implement, grow, serve, contribute, you know, consistently. That’s all I’ve been doing. One of the things that I was definitely gifted with is to be able to listen, learn, and then implement quick. Don’t take forever to do it. Just cool. I like it. Implement it.
[00:30:54 – 00:32:33]Yeah, well, there’s nothing wrong with that. Procrastination happens to people. But, you know, at the end of the day, if you have something you want to achieve, the sooner you tackle it and move forward through the obstacles. Because when we tackle something, there can be obstacles, there can be things that need to be overcome to get to the light at the end of the tunnel where we’re trying to achieve. And that’s okay. That’s part of the journey. Right. We can take all these books, all these conferences, like a Tony Robbins. At the end of the day, we still have to decipher how that fits in through our purpose filter. What’s our purpose? And how is that information that we’re drawing from these people going to help me with my purpose? And how can I help, you know, people listening or watching. You can have somebody coach you that’s still being coached themselves. The difference is, is the life journey. You’re. You’re. Yeah, so do I. I’ve had coaches, I’ve been part of Masterminds for years. How often do I. Do I utilize them? Not as much as I used to. Who. I’ve been doing this for a long time. Right. But at the end of the day, it doesn’t mean that I don’t have people. I can check that. I can’t check in with that. I can’t get some, you know, a different thought process or a variation in. In my mindset of how I just interpreted something. Well, what’s happened to you? Oh, I had this go on. And then you dealt with this. Well, that’s. You’re seeing it through that purpose filter, that filter of your. Your mind’s eye, right? So it’s nice. You have to have mentorship, you have to have coaching. I would be willing to believe that people like Tony Robbins have people they talk to too. Like you would. You don’t get to his place without being somebody that gets stuck.
[00:32:35 – 00:33:26]I know that. I know that Tony still has mentors to this day with the work that I’ve done for him. And that was one of the things that I found out in December where I had an opportunity to speak to someone that was very close to Tony, very, very close to Tony. And I said, does Tony really do all this stuff that he implements and says? And she was like, yep. And I’m like, he still has. And she goes, yeah, Peter, he still has mentors and he still has people to call upon and he still has all these people. And I’m like, wow. He goes. She goes, he doesn’t know everything. Still learning right now, you know, and that’s one of the things that really showed me that someone at prime example is beautiful to hear, Dwight, that you’ve been in it for 20 odd years. You said doing this 26 years, 27.
[00:33:26 – 00:33:33]Years, 20, 20, 23. This is my 23rd year as of September 19th, that I started 23 years.
[00:33:34 – 00:34:05]And for you to still say you’re part of masterminds and you still have mentors, it’s beautiful to hear. So, you know, for your guests out there, like, if you haven’t got mentors in things or if you haven’t got coaches and things, please go get them. Please go get the ones that you believe that are right for you. Go find the ones that are beautiful. You know, maybe that might be Dwight, maybe that might be me, maybe that might be somebody else. It doesn’t really matter as long as we’ve got a different lens and a different perspective from different people that have lived life.
[00:34:05 – 00:34:40]Oh, exactly. So I want to ask you about skydiving, right? So you’ve done it for so long, right? Skydiving is both precision and it’s surrender, right? You got to be precision because you don’t want to land in. You don’t want to land on top of a car, for example, or in front of a car. So it’s precision and you’re surrendering the fact that your equipment’s going to work, right? You’re surrendering the fact the plane’s going to work, right? You’re surrendering the fact of everything. Right? What did the sky teach you about fear, control and trust?
[00:34:42 – 00:37:57]Oh, great question again. I like these questions. What did the sky teach me about fear, control and trust. It taught me, it taught me that sometimes you have to let go of what is inside to see that there is a brighter future. And I will tell you a story. When I first started skydiving, I had two amazing instructors. And I’ll just paint the picture for you. It was on a really kind of. It was in, it was in March in the uk so if anybody’s listening from the uk, they kind of know it’s cold. It’s probably more than likely like Canada in, in March. It’s pretty, it’s pretty cold. And, and we were on the ground and we, we had this little plane, this little blue plane fitted, fitted eight people in it. And what has to happen when you start to skydive is you have two instructors, one on your right, one on your left. And you get in the door and you go. And I was one of them people and always was that was had massive self esteem problems. So to put it. To get past my self esteem, I used to put a mask on which was a significance mask or a certainty mask. And that was kind of like this, this guy that didn’t give a monkeys about anything. I was like, yeah, I don’t care. You know, this is not gonna bother me. This is skydiving. You know, I’m like, yeah, you’ll bring it all like, you know, and I use the word cocky. You know, arrogant could be used as another one. You know, egotistical could be used as another one. I was very much like this kind of guy that, you know, 18 years ago, this was when I started skydiving nearly 19 years and I was kind of like this guy. And so, you know, I was on this skydiving center in this earth field and there’s all these little buildings popped around and the propeller’s not churning on the plane. And we got on the plane and I was still all like, yeah, the plane took off. I was like cool as cucumbers, like sat back, you know. Yeah, this is gonna be easy. You know, I’d already been to Florida prior to that doing some wind tunnel stuff, you know, the indoor stuff, not out the sky, you know. So I was kind of like, I could already turn and I could already do all these cool moves, but I thought they were cool anyway. Do I, you know what I mean? I thought it would cool, right? And I was there and I got in the plane and, and the door opened and Holy man. You know when you’ve had a moment in, in your life to. I were everything that you think it’s going to be. It’s not at all that. It’s completely the opposite. Completely the opposite. And I had this massive, overwhelming feeling of fear. Like, holy moly. What am I going to do? And I had this. These two beautiful, brilliant, amazing instructors, and one of them was from Liverpool, and they have a little bit of an accent. It’s very different accent, and it’s quite like direct.
[00:37:57 – 00:37:58]Right.
[00:37:58 – 00:38:19]And his name was. His name’s Kieran. He’s a very good friend of mine. And we get in the door and what you got to do is you got to say, are you ready to skydive to the students? So that would be me. So he says, are you ready to skydive? And I went. And he went, tough, we’re going out anyway.
[00:38:23 – 00:38:25]Sometimes you got to be pushed over the edge.
[00:38:26 – 00:39:01]He just got all of me. I went out. I couldn’t breathe at the beginning. I was like, holy moly. So it was kind of this. And I got down, and after I’d done everything, I was like, oh, my word. And I was kind of like, whoa, what’s going on? My hands were freezing. I was like, I don’t like this at all. And then. And then we went on jump number two. And jump number two is the same. She’s like, are you ready to skydive? So I then go back into my super significant certainty place of, you know, yeah, let’s go, like, you know, like, yeah. And then I get to the door.
[00:39:01 – 00:39:05]And I’m like, you know, hyperventilating.
[00:39:06 – 00:41:30]Yeah, we get. We get out again. And. And on jump number three, I. I realized that when we got onto jump number three and I started this whole process again, I realized that if I was to stay calm and collective and centered, I would actually get a better skydive. I would be actually better at this. I would be actually more impressed than this. And I would actually remember the things that we do and the things that I learned from that moment in. From jump number three. And by the way, just to let you know, do I. If I had not paid for this upfront, I don’t think I would have carried on. It was just that I didn’t want to ask for my money back because I know Kieran would have told me to go do one, you know, and. And. And it’s taught me to be. After 18 years of competitive skydiving, representing Great Britain four times, winning, I think, 16 medals, in 18 years of skydiving, multiple goals, I was a national champion in 2023. I was. I’ve been different national champions for different disciplines over the years. It’s taught me that to stay calm, break through your fears and go through diversity to see what is on the other side, that you can have a fantastic life. And I say, you could say it’s a chant. You could say it’s a pro. Before every single plane, I get playing journey, I get out now every single one. For the last six years, I’ve said, I am amazing. I am powerful. I’m superhuman. I’m amazing. I’m powerful. I’m superhuman. Thank you, God. Thank you, angels, for the protection you were just about to provide me on this skydive. Thank you, thank you, thank you. And then I clap my hands together, and then I’m ready to go jump. And that just kind of settles everything down, and it kind of just levels everything out. And it’s taught me all of them beautiful gifts. All of them beautiful gifts.
[00:41:31 – 00:42:14]Well, it would be, you know, like, great way of explaining it and talking about, you know, the fact that, you know, you talked about the seeker. Let’s dial it back to there. And you talk about positive affirmations and stuff, and you’re doing these positive affirmations, clapping your hands, and you’re ready to go. Well, at the end of the day, our body, our mindset doesn’t know the difference between the truth and lies. So we have to pump ourselves up. We have to give us the proper information, our brain, the proper information, which triggers our emotional state, our emotional iq. So you doing that is amazing because it’s literally pumping up your emotional iq. You’re. You’re feeling strong, and you can challenge anything, right?
[00:42:14 – 00:42:15]Yeah.
[00:42:15 – 00:42:32]So many people don’t do that when they go into challenging situations. They don’t sit in awareness of their own self, how they’re feeling and going, oh, I feel kind of this. What can I do? What can I say to myself to give it a truth that I want it to have? Not the lie. It’s believing, right?
[00:42:32 – 00:44:19]One of the. It’s the biggest thing that I’ve changed. Like, it’s. It’s the biggest thing that I have actually changed. Like, you know, the belief that I am amazing, that’s my belief. Like, if no one else wants to believe it, that’s cool with me. I really don’t. It doesn’t really matter to me. Like, every day I wake up, I tell myself how amazing I am, how powerful I am. I’m a superhuman, you know? And when someone’s walking down the street and they’re like, how are you I’m like, I’m absolutely amazing. Thank you very much. And they’re like, whoa. I’m like, yeah, I’m amazing. Thank you. You know, and I have certain different things that I say to myself. I played in a golf tournament today. You know, I play competitive golf as well. And I stood on the first tee. Always get a little bit of nerves. You know, I’ve got a national championships next weekend. Not this weekend, next weekend. And I’m going to say the exact same thing. When I get on, like, round one or round two. I always say it when I feel my body shift into this kind of nervous state. And it’s. I command my mind, body and soul to be in a calm and collective state. I command my mind, body and soul to be in a calm and collective state. And it just drops. Everything, like, everything just drops. And Dwight, it’s the biggest thing that, like, seriously, if anybody out there is listening to, to this, and I hope they are, and thank you for listening. Like, the words that we say is the life that we lead. It’s so true. It is so, so true. You know, just by saying them little, you can call them positive affirmations, you can call them incantations, you can call them pros, you can call them chance. You can call them whatever you want. You know, it’s just that self talk.
[00:44:19 – 00:46:22]That we have, though. I’m sorry for cutting you off, but the self talk that we have, the biggest problem that people have with the self talk that they’re doing, it’s based on learned behaviors. So dial it back. What we talked about, you know, going to conferences, reading books and all that stuff, people listening, watching. Your brain needs all that information again. And then you have to decimate it in the sense you got to just dissect it and go, what serves me in my thought process, am I telling myself I’m gonna succeed? Or am I? Or are you? Am I telling myself, oh, I hope that works, Peter. I’m not sure, you know, and then I. Then I go into it and I wonder why it failed, right? I gotta go into it with that energy like you’re talking about and move forward in and what I’m going to do and just go and do it and don’t tell myself, oh, I failed. Oh, I just got another life lesson. So it’s the words. It’s the. It’s a word. Smithing. We utilize on ourselves. And then the rest of the people around me that don’t care, they’re not meant to be in my tribe if they’re not patting me on the back. I’m going to do it. I’m going to pat myself on the back until such time that people see the brilliance that I am. Right. You got to tell myself I’m brilliant. I’m brilliant. Yeah, I’m brilliant. You know, they’re going to see the brilliance that I am. Until then, I’m just going to keep on pushing forward and I’m, I’m going to deflect the negativity and attract the greatness. And if I have that bad moment, I need to be aware of it so I can move forward. Right. So awareness like you talked about, you wake up in the morning, you’re praising, you’re praising, you know, God, you’re praising. I’m going to have the most beautiful day. I go to bed at night, I do gratefulness, I pray and I say, well, I look at my day and go, like you talked about this quite a bit earlier in the podcast. I don’t ever have bad days either. I’m seven years doing. Seven years doing it. I have character. I have character defining moments in my day, but I don’t let it define my day. Right?
[00:46:22 – 00:46:36]Yes, 100% and I agree with you entirely. And somebody just come to me then, you know that I wanna. Is it okay if I share this story with you about a moment in time?
[00:46:36 – 00:46:36]Go ahead.
[00:46:36 – 00:52:49]I, I understood the reason why I say thank you, God. Thank you, angels, or I just say thank you. And it was, it was two, two years ago, I had an experience where I now know it was a severe panic attack. And it was, yeah, it was just over two, two and a half years ago. And I thought I was having a heart attack. And I was reliving my heart attack from when I was 21 from a cocaine overdose. So I had this attack that I thought was a heart attack. So I’ve called the ambulance thinking it was an art attack. I called somebody where I was to come round to, to just in case I was going right, to stay there. And as he came, I was going into this very white sector, like very white sector of everything was going white completely. And then luckily for me, the guy didn’t know how to do CPR properly. So he was just pumping on my chest, which was bringing me kind of energy back to kind of stay out of this kind of thing I was going through, which now I know was a severe, severe panic attack. Right. And I, all the way through that was saying the words, please, God, please, universe, please give me more power. It’s not my time to die. Please give me another time. Please give me another time. Please God, please universe. And consistently. And until that day, I really had never said the word God, right? I had really never said the word God. I always used to say to everybody, the universe, right? And for some reason on that day when I was going through this experience, right, I kept saying the word God. And then the guy that was with me, he had to go and get the ambulance. So at that point, everything, I remember screaming his name. I, I think I screamed the wrong name. I think I screamed Dave. And his name was John or something like that, right? And I screamed his name. And as I screen his name everything went woof white. And then I came out to my body and I had an out of body experience. I was stood in the middle of the room, right? Everything in the room was completely white and as far as I was concerned, I was dead. And at that moment then I went and asked God to bring me back. I stood there in the middle of the room and said, wow, this is super cool, this is amazing. And then I said, no, no, there’s more to life than this. There’s more to life. And then I sat back down into my body on laying my body and said, hey, God, it’s not my time to die right now. Please bring me back, I know you can do this, please bring me back. And then as I was saying all these things, I was saying to him, I don’t want my, my beautiful girlfriend at the time, Ash, she doesn’t want to see me die right now. This is too new. I haven’t had kids yet. My mum shouldn’t see me die before. Please God. Please God. And all the way through it, I was consistently asking for these things that I had not fulfilled in my life. And I was saying, I will, you know, I have an higher purpose. I have everything else, you know, please just, just give me this one more chance. And then as I was laying my body, I could feel the blood start coming back from my toes all the way up, all the way up my body, all the way up into my heart and I started to feel my heartbeat again. And then I came all the way up to the top. As it came up to the top, I came through the coach and up the couch and went. And the only thing I, the reason I say I believe it was a severe panic attack is because I have got no logical way of explaining what I went through. And then the paramedics came and they run a lot of tests on me and find that there was nothing wrong and everything else. And the reason I, the reason I say this story is I made a def. Decision at that point where if I was going to ask God for some reason, that word God for help when I was dying or believed I was dying or I believed I had no more time on this planet, then every single day that I woke up, from that day forward, I was going to say thank you. I was going to say thank you for giving me a moment to be on this planet. Thank you, God, thank you, angels, thank you, universe, thank you, whatever. And every day, all the way through it, Dwight, this is the goss. This is the truth. I. Gospel truth, right? Every day I wake up, I say thank you for being here every night. I say thank you for being here every moment. When I’m on a golf course, I’m. And I’m hitting not the best golf shots. I say thank you for letting me have that awful golf shot. Right? And then if the skydive doesn’t go well and I’ve survived and I’m still here and I haven’t broken anything and have flown a parachute to the ground, I say thank you. And you don’t have to say God with this. You don’t have to say universe, you don’t have to say angels, you don’t have to say anything. What I would suggest is this to the people out there listening is just start saying thank you to yourself. Just start saying thank you for the little things. Just start saying thank you for just being here. Because one day we’re not going to be here. And I can promise you from being through some of the experiences that I’ve been through, that when they do come up, they are damn scary. And I tell you now, there’s something else inside of us that says it’s not our time to go. And you fight for that.
[00:52:50 – 00:52:50]Wow.
[00:52:50 – 00:52:52]So why not just say thank you for it?
[00:52:52 – 00:54:56]Exactly. And at the end of the day, so many people don’t have the awareness to be grateful that they were given another shot, another day. Right? And you don’t have to be God fearing. You don’t have to be believe in God, evil, nature, universe, whatever. You should wake up and you should say thank you. I woke my eyes. Have another shot. I have another opportunity for me. I’m thanking God, thanking Jesus and welcoming me. Welcome him to my day. Welcome, you know, welcome into my family and friends in my day. Appreciate you at night. You know, thank you for allowing me to have this great podcast conversation with Peter Day. It really enlightened me. Right. Or, you know, Saturday night. Thank you for allowing me to have great interactions with relatives and see people I maybe never ever see again. But thank you for having me to have that opportunity. Some people right now, and no matter where you are, uk, Europe, Canada, us, anywhere in the world, are sitting in their homes shut off from the world and they don’t have that at night to go. Thank you for having family and you know, allow me to have some family. Thank you for allowing me to have a good work day. Thank you for allowing me to have food on the table. Thank you for allowing me to brush my teeth. Like I say stuff like, you know what, thank you, I’m getting out of bed. Thank you. I get to walk into a bathroom, have water, have a shower, brush my teeth. There’s so many billions of people that don’t have that. Thank you, God. Right? So if you’re a person that, that doesn’t understand how to do it, start having gratefulness for your day. Even the worst day possible have, you can always have a good day. I woke up, I had a day. Yes, character building moments sucked, but I made it through it. Thank you for allowing me to have a bed to sleep in, roof over my head, you know, please allow me to have a great night’s sleep. If, if I don’t wake up, take my soul. If I do, if I do wake up, help me be a better version of myself so I can serve others. You know, it doesn’t take much, 20 seconds.
[00:54:58 – 00:55:25]You know the best thing about it, Dwight, is this. Do you actually, you know what, do you know the best thing about it? Do you know the best thing about being grateful and gratitude and you know, one of the best things about it, except for it makes you feel great and it makes you feel amazing. I mean that’s, that’s for me and you, that’s obvious. But there’s something else that I talk about and I want to ask. The question to you is what do you think the best thing about it is?
[00:55:26 – 00:56:41]Well, it changes my state. It’s not just about the energy that your part of me, you know, makes me feel good. It actually brings to the fact that the words I say now throughout my day or even if it’s during the day and I’m grateful for something, my energy projects out of my body, my body language, my tonality, everything by being grateful and having gratefulness and gratitude for my life comes out in how I present myself through the rest of that day. If I’m going to bed, it helps present me into the, you know, into the relaxation of rejuvenating my body to, you know, thank you, I’m grateful for all this stuff. And God goes, you know what? Dwight’s not going to be in that white room at this point in his life. He’s just doing it in a sleeping state. And he’s thanked me. He’s asked me if it’s okay, can he, Can I wake up, can I help somebody tomorrow again? If not, take me up to heaven. I’m ready to go whenever you want me to, Lord. Like, just simple people are confused by how complicated or uncomplicated gratefulness can be. So for me, being grateful, grateful brings to me solace, peace.
[00:56:42 – 00:56:42]Yeah.
[00:56:42 – 00:56:58]And it helps me have that same solace and peace when I’m presenting and talking. It helps me be a better empath to others. It does so, so much. For me, it’s like the list goes on to not have it. It would just be living on the hamster wheel of life like most of the population in the world.
[00:56:59 – 00:58:39]And for me, I, I 100% agree with you, all of that. And for your listeners, I’m going to say this, I’m going to say the. For me, the best thing about gratefulness is exactly what do I just said? Shifts my energy, gives better energy. And it’s free of charge. We do not have to pay for this. It is free. We can do this without paying anybody. You know, it’s free. There’s no transaction of money. It’s just free of charge. It’s completely free. And you can come off the hamster wheel of life. And I love that statement if you want, because this is. You don’t have to pay for this to wake up and say thank you. You don’t have to wake up. You don’t have to pay for anything. You don’t. There’s no transaction of financial transaction at all. For you to be grateful at all for me is phenomenal because people will pay loads of money to have mobile phones and all these gadgets and all this other stuff, all these drones or whatever to give them happiness. And we have something that is free of charge and all we got to say is thank you, I’m grateful, and that’s it. And then whatever you want to say after them words, you could just. I mean, I’ve been running down the street, Dwight, and just been saying thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. I mean, if you say that, actually, let’s do this for everybody listening and just, and do it with me, Dwight as well. I just want you to keep saying thank you and see how long it takes you before you actually start smiling.
[00:58:41 – 00:58:41]Thank you.
[00:58:41 – 00:58:42]Are we ready?
[00:58:42 – 00:58:46]Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. It doesn’t take much.
[00:58:46 – 00:59:04]It’s like four or five. It’s like on average, I think I read a study that it’s like, and this is where I got it from, you know, seven times in, when you get to seven or eight, you will start smiling. Even if you are in a not so great mood. You will instantly change your physiology.
[00:59:06 – 00:59:12]So I’m gonna better. We’re getting close to the end of the show, but I have a few more things I wanted to go through.
[00:59:13 – 00:59:13]Okay.
[00:59:14 – 00:59:45]One of the things I wanted to talk about was mindset and confidence, right. This is about the thing that most people lack, right, Is confidence. Another reason why they don’t do gratefulness, right? They don’t have the confidence to believe that it’s going to help or make a difference, right? So when people feel behind, shame steals their voice, right? When they feel behind, how do you rebuild confidence without pretending that the pain that they’re experiencing didn’t help, didn’t happen? Part of me, what do you do?
[00:59:46 – 00:59:48]What do I do for my own pain?
[00:59:48 – 01:00:11]For people that you’re dealing with when people feel behind again and people steal their voice? You’ve experienced that yourself where you, where you feel like you don’t have a voice. That’s what we’re talking about, that selft talk, being free. How do you rebuild confidence without pretending? So how do you do it with your self potentially is how you’re going to train others. So either way, you can either talk about yourself or talk about what you help other people.
[01:00:12 – 01:01:43]I, I, I could talk about both. So for me, it’s acknowledging that you have, you have been through an experience and, and talking about that and then dealing with that situation that you have been through. And I don’t like to use the word trauma. Some people it may be trauma. Some people that may be other things. And when we acknowledge certain aspects, we can then rebuild. For me, anyway, we can rebuild. And this is what I teach people when I coach them, is we can acknowledge what it is and then we can rebuild the confidence in that situation about how we would deal with it in a different way, looking it from a different perspective. And we have used the word God a lot in this, this podcast, which is cool. I look at it from God’s perspective, I look at it from the third party’s perspective and the God’s perspective. And then to build on the confidence, it’s just to Believe in yourself. It’s just to, to believe that you’re good enough. We all have limiting beliefs even to this day. Do I? You have still got, after 23 years of doing this, you still got limiting beliefs. I’ve still got limiting beliefs. We’ve all still got limiting beliefs. And it’s just acknowledging them for me and saying, cool. That’s the. How am I going to get over it? How am I going to build on it? And I think the biggest thing is to acknowledge that you have, you’ve lost your confidence and then look at how you’re going to rebuild your confidence.
[01:01:44 – 01:02:18]Yeah, it’s, it’s important though, you know, it ties into, you know, we talked about self awareness and sometimes one of the things we didn’t talk about is a negativity of what can happen when you practice self awareness and being realized where we are in our lives. We can turn it into a negative thing, turn it into a self attack on ourselves. How would you, what would you say to people that that happens when they first start doing it? Or if they’ve been practicing it and they’re saying to themselves, it doesn’t work for me, all I do is beat myself up and I think more negative. What would you suggest?
[01:02:19 – 01:02:22]Stop saying it doesn’t work for you and just keep doing it.
[01:02:23 – 01:02:30]Perfect. It goes back to that self Affirmation, a positive self. Affirmation, a positive self.
[01:02:31 – 01:03:52]It’s the same as I said to a friend of mine recently. He kept saying, and I’ll say this, I said, he said, peter, I’ve been so depressed. I’ve been so depressed. And within a 15 minute window he used the word depressed. So I said to him, hey, I have a challenge for you. You love challenges. And he goes, yeah. I said, I have a challenge that for the next six months you don’t use the word depressed. You don’t ever use it ever again for the next six months. Just don’t use it. Just eradicate it from your vocabulary. Just take it away, take it away, take it away, take it away. I said, don’t use it for six months. And he went, okay, what’s that gonna do? I said, well, first of all, if you can’t say the word, then you can’t be the feeling. And he looked at me like, oh, yeah, that’s a good point. I said, so you can’t say it from now? When I spoke to him last week, he’s done one week of it. I said, how do you feel with our challenge? He goes, peter, I can’t Believe the energy I’ve got. He said, when people say, how do you feel? He goes, feel a lot better. You know? I said, and when you talk about the past, you don’t need to say that word. Just say, in the past, I didn’t feel great. I. I had some moments in life, whatever, you know, just don’t say the word. So if people are saying, oh, I can’t do it. It doesn’t work for me. The first thing I would say is stop saying them words.
[01:03:55 – 01:05:25]That is 100. And then most people, when you tell them, you know, you got to program your mind. I remember at one point in time, I used to utilize a specific word, right? And I realized as my kids were really young, I was using this word over and over again, and the word was hate, right? Hate isn’t hate. Hate is not a. A conducive word in any conversation that’s helpful, right? So I’d say to the kid, instead of saying, you hate something, you. You hate someone, how about you start thinking, I just like this experience. I just like what that person does. I, you know, and I, you know, or even stating about somebody, don’t say you hate them. I just like that person’s the way they make me feel. I just, you know, I mean, just. Just changing something with a little word, but it takes. It’s a habitual thing, right? So it’s hard for me to even say the word hate. You know what I mean? I’ve programmed my brain so long, since my kids were younger that. You know what I mean? But that’s what you’re talking about. It’s using. Don’t use that. Talk about being depressed or depression. Like you’re programming yourself to have a different mind state. It’s like putting in. You have a computer and you get an upgrade. You’re upgrading your computer to perform better. We’re trying to upgrade your brain and your emotional IQ to perform better.
[01:05:25 – 01:06:48]Yeah, and I always use, you know, people say, and you’ll have. You’ll have more than likely heard this from different people, right, Dwight? And you live. You 100% will have heard this yourself. You’re like, oh, my God, I love the new you. You know, I love the new you. And I’m like, I am not new. And they’re like, what do you mean? I’m like, I’m just upgraded. I am the same person I always have been, but I have just upgraded myself. That’s it. Like, I am not new. Like, this is. This is. I. Hey, I did not come back out My mom as a new version. Like, I’ve grown and, you know, all I’ve done is upgraded myself. And when I speak, you know, this is for your listeners as well, is when I speak, I always think this. Is this statement going to be an empowering or disempowering statement? Or is this going to be an empowering word or a disempowering word? And since being. Since saying that to myself, I don’t use disempowering words. I really think about what I said or saying. And from doing that, the intelligence that I believe that I have grown just from changing the way I speak my language to make it empowering is just. It’s incredible. It’s actually incredible.
[01:06:48 – 01:07:55]Well, you’re feeding yourself like we talked about. Updates and upgrades and stuff. Conferences, books, masterminds, coaching, podcasts. It’s all upgrades. It’s all input. It’s all input that we’re putting into ourselves because we’ll do it to our computers to protect our. Protect the computer from getting hacked or getting, you know, crashing. But we don’t do it to ourselves. And we are. Our brain is a giant computer. You must beat it. To have a healthy, purposeful life and a legacy requires effort. One of the things that you talked about, like, you know, so people sharpen themselves, they have healthy collaborations and things change in their lives. I want to touch a little bit about what’s happening with you. You’re. You’re looking at potentially, if things work out, moving to the US and you’ve found this opportunity and, you know, God spoken to you that this is something that you need to do. Can you share a little bit about what you’re looking and where you see this taking yourself along the journey of your life?
[01:07:56 – 01:07:57]Yeah, I could share a lot about.
[01:07:57 – 01:07:57]It if you want.
[01:07:57 – 01:07:58]I could share a little.
[01:07:59 – 01:08:03]Share. Share what you feel. Share. Share. About five minutes. How’s that?
[01:08:03 – 01:12:36]So. So. So what I’m gonna. What. What we are gonna be doing, me and my amazing, beautiful wife, we are gonna be going out to the US to work with a company called Healthy once and for all. And the owner of that. Com. The owners of that company are called Jeff Lobeck and Stephanie Lobeck. And In September of 2024, we. I got. I. Jeff is one of my mentors. And I said to Jeff in passing, hey, I’d love to move to the US And I own numerous amounts of companies, as you well know, doing different things. And he came to me in September and said, hey, Peter, do you want to maybe do a collaboration and Move out to the US and take my healthy ones and for all program and my healthy once and for all business to the next level because you’ve been through the program three times already and the results that you have got are outstanding. And I said, well, you know, I’ve always wanted to go there. So what happened from there is we then started applying for visas which we’ve now done and we’re now waiting on the beautiful US government will not go down that route. Well, do I right to give me a visa based on my sport, especially sports interest in skydiving and the psychology behind skydiving, the mental, mental attributes of skydiving to be able to go out and teach people how to change the lifestyle, to live a life longevity by using certain, let’s call them biohacks, natural hacks. And this program that Jeff has designed, all this business that Jeff has got with Stephanie, his beautiful wife really revolutionized the way I deal with my health because the psychology, the mindset of what I have got now, you know, a lot of it has come from Tony, right, Which is great, you know, and the body side of it, the health side of it has all come from healthy once and for all. So what we’re going to be doing, my amazing, beautiful wife’s going to be coming with me of course, and she’s going to be, she might, she is a breath coach, she’s a sewing buff, sewing bath therapist. That’s the word I’m looking for. She is a cold water therapist as well. Then she’s a beauty therapist, Then she’s a masseuse. She’s got a lot of different strings to her balls and the big angle and the big dream and. Well, it’s not a dream, it’s the goal. The goal, because life without goals is just a dream, right, is in the end, within the next 10 years we will own a massive retreat in the US where we will have everything coming out of one and then we will be teaching it to many. And right now we’re going to be starting off by doing the good old school going and doing small 90 minute seminars and we’re going to do them online, one in September and then one in November just to get the ball rolling. And then we’re going to go out and we’re going to go back to old school ways of doing it and we’re going to go live. So the whole objective is to focus on Arizona first because there is 4.5 million people in Arizona and nobody is doing what we’re doing. No one is Doing what we’re doing. No one has a program that has been wrote like us. Not people have got very good programs. I’m not suggesting that, but the research that we do and the implementation of what we do in the community that we build and what we bring to everything is accountability, momentum, and mindset. And then teach them the understanding of food and the definition of the relationship that people have with food and drink and everything else that we put into our beautiful bodies that we have been given as a gift. This avatar that we have right now, your beautiful avatar that you have is. We only have one, so let’s look after it. And that’s what we’re going to be teaching.
[01:12:37 – 01:12:48]That reminds me of books that I read back in the 90s, because again, I’m a little bit. A little bit older than you. Fit for life. Pardon?
[01:12:48 – 01:12:49]Only a tagging, by the way.
[01:12:49 – 01:13:03]Yeah, just a tad. Yeah, just a tad. Yeah, it’s how. Yeah, I’m seasoned. I’m not old. I’m just like a. Like a fine steak. I forget what I was gonna say.
[01:13:03 – 01:13:14]But I just gotta say this one thing, Dwight, a friend of mine says to me, hey, it’s not your age. It’s your level. You’re at level 58. I’m at level 41.
[01:13:14 – 01:13:20]Yeah. So I’m gonna up level and finish the game quicker. Is that what it is?
[01:13:20 – 01:13:25]No, you’ve got more levels on it. That’s it.
[01:13:25 – 01:15:51]Yeah, that’s it. I just got more scars, more. More wrinkles. But anyway, we’re going to move on. I can’t remember what my point was. Not a big. Not. Not a big deal. But at the end of the day, we look at the fact of what we need to input into our lives and what we need to do to upgrade ourselves, and are we willing to go and act on faith? You’re having faith. You applied for, you know, you’ve applied to go to the US to get your visas, and you got all this grandiose things. Your goals. They’re not dreams or goals that you want to achieve, but you literally. The difference between you and other people is you’ve been tenacious, even through your most difficult times. And listening to your story of. Of going through what you’ve gone through, driving to Portugal to starting skydiving. We never really got into your fireworks business. But that can be for another time, another conversation. You have something that very few people have. You have a superpower that I call tenacity. Because if you weren’t tenacious, you wouldn’t even have Talked yourself out of the fact of driving off that cliff with a car. Right. You wouldn’t have. You still had a part of you that was tenacious enough that your business partner, your phone call. Just that you were hanging on. Maybe like some people say by a thread, but you were hanging on and you weren’t letting. You were starting to not let that little B voice that I call it take over your life. You let tenacity say, I’m going to continue to grow. I’m going to meet great people. I’m. My time’s not up. Right. I need to continue to grow. And which is so important for, for people to understand. Take that baby step. Failure is, doesn’t exist. All it is is a stepping stone for your next choice of what you’re going to make. Oh, I really messed up Tuesday. Wednesday is going to be better. Why? Because I know self awareness. I’m going to talk about it with myself tonight and I’m going to resolve it and wake up with the right attitude and program myself. So, Peter, you know, this is the last question I’m going to ask or wrap up the show. If you had to leave our listeners with one last piece of encouragement, something you lived, not just learned, that proves it’s worth giving a heck and never giving up, what would you say?
[01:15:53 – 01:17:00]I would say everything starts from a belief. And believing in yourself is the key thing that we have to keep doing. And you mentioned the word tenacity. And the tenacity is literally just in my hallucination. And my belief is that it is just faith, belief and just understanding that if we keep going at what we really want and we keep doing the compounding and we keep just going at it and going at it and going at it and doing the tedious things that we think may not be working, they actually are working. They actually are working and just keep going at what you want. And in the end you will get given the gift. And then once that gift goes, it’s like a river flowing. It just flows and it keeps flowing as if you. And then you get on your surfboard and you flow the river and you keep riding the river and then all of a sudden the river opens up into the sea and then, man, you’re riding some big ass waves and life really becomes exciting. Really becomes exciting.
[01:17:02 – 01:18:15]Yeah, it, it’s true. And you talked about, you know, we talk about, you know, repetition and we talked about habits. And at the end of the day, people have to continue to do the uncomfortable over and over again until it becomes comfortable and Creates that habit for success so that you have a. Habits. Create a critical mindset. At least I believe they do. Right? They create a critical mindset. And all the things that you’ve gone through now get filtered through that. Right through the lens, through the lens of Peter. And we just. Don’t give up on yourself. Just keep on keeping on and realizing that giving a heck means every day till the day you take your last breath. You should want to experience something new. You should. When people say, well, how can I experience something new? I work out of my house. Like I work out of my house. If I’m not off seeing a client or going on a trip somewhere, I’m in my. How can you experience something new every day? Well, yeah, do a different flow. Do something different. Maybe, maybe you walk around your home this way instead. You walk around this way, right?
[01:18:15 – 01:18:15]Yeah.
[01:18:16 – 01:18:23]Maybe you. Maybe you shave like a male shaves one side of their face. Try doing the uncomfortable shave the other side. Right.
[01:18:23 – 01:18:26]Try using your left hand. It’s a nightmare when you get stuck.
[01:18:28 – 01:18:36]Yeah, exactly. So I really appreciate you being on. What’s the best way for people to reach you before I wrap up the show?
[01:18:37 – 01:19:31]Right now they can reach me on Instagram, Peter John Mother 1984, or they can reach me on Facebook, which Peter John Mava. That’s it. You know, right now we got a website being built. You can also, if you want to try and reach out to healthy once and for all, then it’s just healthy once and for all.com.com and yeah, that’s it. Realistically, Dwight, it’s been an absolute pleasure. It’s been a gift for you to be letting me onto your show. It really has. And I really thank all the listeners for spending the time to listen to me. And Dwight, just kind of give a heck. I mean, seriously, give a heck about everything. I love it. It’s awesome. And you’re doing an awesome job here and you’re showing that, you know, people can really make the difference by just giving a hack.
[01:19:32 – 01:21:27]Absolutely appreciate that. For those new the show that are watching or listening, go to GiveAheck.com, go to the top hit podcast. You’ll see a picture of Peter as well as the detailed show notes and any links to social media or websites that have been mentioned. And you’ll also have chapter summaries as well as a full unedited podcast transcript@thatgiveaheck.com so I appreciate you again, Peter, being on before we close, listeners hear me on this. It’s not too late to be proud of the chapter that you’re writing right now, not after the relapse, the debt, the silence to grief. Giving a heck isn’t about getting it perfect. It’s about refusing to disappear. Choose one honest action, make one call. Take one breath you actually feel. Purpose shows up. When you do, your courage to continue is the wind. So give a heck and give it loudly. This has been Peter Maurer showing us what service looks like when it’s born from scars, not scripts. If this conversation grabs something inside of you, if you’re ever felt being, being behind, ashamed or alone, let’s this land. You are not broken, you are becoming. Momentum isn’t found in perfection, it’s found in movement. Share this with someone who needs a lifeline Today, progress starts with an honest step forward. It’s time to give a heck about your life on purpose. Your story matters, your voice matters, and your next step is enough to begin. Until next time. Remember, in life, it’s never too late to give a heck.